Hi everyone, I’m new on this website and I’ve been searching for the most non judgemental website and came across this one. As people are quick to make an opinion I wanted to give a background of my relationship with my husband so you know the whole story, but my husband has cheated on me throughout my relationship with him with numerous girls, and I only found out about it when I was 8 months pregnant with my first. Only god knows what I went through, I was suffering from depression and anxiety because of this, and when I thought it was all over I got pregnant again and 6 months in I found out he was cheating again, my son was born with conditions and even when I was on a downward spiral and trying to get my head around my son’s issues, my husband just kept on going with his affairs, late nights, not coming home, with my cleaner.. it was the worst time of my life, where even though I loved my babies more than anything, I sometimes actually wished I wasn’t alive anymore. Then a months later one day shortly after finding videos of him having sex with a girl I knew, I had enough and I was done with him and no longer cared about him or anything he did, in fact I was happy when he didn’t come home and my one wish was that he would just leave and we could divorce, however due to financial reasons I was putting it off. One of the other reasons I stayed in the relationship was because I always wanted 3 kids it was my dream but I got to a point where I was ready to forget having a 3rd and just have him out of my life. I am getting older and by the time I meet someone it might be too late so it was either with him or not at all.
Anyway after I found the videos I started to rebel and going out a bit more and I met this guy who fell in love with me and is obsessed with me, he made me feel like the most beautiful sexiest person and always so truthful and honest, all things I never had with my husband. All these years I stayed faithful and honest because I knew I wasn’t like him but then one day something switched and now I’m no different than him. We are in the process of separating and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. I had sex with my husband 1 time after months, but I’m 90% sure it’s my boyfriends because of the dates. I am 5 weeks and thinking Of having an abortion. It will kill me to do this as there is nothing I want more and after years of trying I finally fall pregnant but if I tell my husband it’s not his even if we are separating and estranged for months before, he is Middle Eastern and I know it will become a huge thing, probably even dangerous for me, shame on the family etc. But the thought of keeping my mouth shut and pretending it’s his sends chills down my spine every time I think about it. On one hand I’m so extremely happy and grateful to be pregnant but on the other hand I feel like I’m trapped in between a rock and a hard place and heartache whatever decision I make! I can’t tell anyone I just don’t know what to do :(