How do I learn to stop being needy?

[TheresGotToBeMoreToLife]

Just that really.... I am a needy person and I want to learn how to chill the hell out and stop being so needy. I can see these really unattractive qualities in myself but dont know how to change them probably because I've been like this for so long.

I exercise some quite unhealthy behaviours eg stalking ex boyfriends on facebook and instagram on a daily basis, checking people's watsapp to see what they were last active and then being annoyed they havent replied to me etc. I realise how silly this is and it annoys me so much.

I'm newly dating and I just feel I'm too needy and highly strung to do what everyone recommends which is just to 'relax and enjoy it's. I wouldnt date me!!

Any advice?

How old are you OP? Until i had kids of my own i thought i had a 'brilliant' relationship with my parents too.

No-one is that perfect. All parents make mistakes, even loving ones. Kids don't come with an instruction manual.

My sister's parents are absolutely brilliant and they have the most fantastic relationship ever. Mine are nasty cunts who I have put a lot time and effort into protecting myself and my children from...

In this day and age though I think its far more common than you think, most people I know love a good stalk now and then! Don't beat yourself up over it too much

So true @CopperPottery

I'm estranged from my parents now and my siblings are all enmeshed with them in various ways.