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Why aren't I good enough?

71 replies

sosickoflove · 28/09/2019 18:12

I started dating her in may,this was my first gay relationship.
Anyway we were going on dates and I thought it was going somewhere,we text daily lots of contact.
Got on well and she told me she wasn't sleeping with anyone else.
Then she said she just wanted us to be friends,it was getting too much into relationship territory.
Here's the thing last week she asked me for a drink.
I met her and within 30 mins she asked me for a kiss and we slept together.
The morning she told me she had slept with another woman the night before,she slept with a waitress the weekend before and also her friend wants a relationship with her but she doesn't but Is sleeping with her.
She told me I'm going to end up hurt and girls have tried and failed to change her.
She told me she was bad news.
She went home and once again non stopped text all week.
She was out last night and this morning she was texting me as usual
She then sent me a screenshot of a convo between her and her friends basically saying she had sex with a random woman again last night.
She said "I've been at it again ha ha ha "
I'm so hurt and I know it's my own fault
How awful to rub it in my face.
I told her last week I had feelings for her.
Why aren't I good enough to be with ?

OP posts:
heartyrebel · 28/09/2019 20:18

Shes the crazy maker.
Walk away now, its not you

Interestedwoman · 28/09/2019 20:20

I agree with the PP that said she sounds like she has some personality disorder. What's more, she seems to be proud of it. Stay far away.

How she's acting is no reflection on you- it's all her.

littleorangecat22 · 28/09/2019 20:21

Run away. She's enjoying having you chase after her. Even if she decided to have a relationship with you (which she won't) she would get bored from not having the chasing around any more and either find someone else to mess with OR become abusive/gaslighting and continue making you chase and appease her in other ways. Run. Away.

Rachelover60 · 28/09/2019 20:22

Horrible woman, you're well out of it.
Onwards and upwards.

sosickoflove · 28/09/2019 20:28

Normally on a night I'm texting /snapchatting but I haven't tonight and she keeps messaging me.
I haven't replied
I actually can't bring myself to now I know she has zero respect for me.

Maybe I've needed this to see what she is really like.

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StateOfMind · 28/09/2019 20:38

She’s messaging you because she wants a response. She wants to know you’re still hooked.

Don’t give her one. Just continue to ignore her.

Just be aware that she may well try and provoke a response by texting something outrageous. E.g, she’s just had sex with somebody else or even that’s she’s feeling really down and thought you were her friend etc etc.

readitandwept · 28/09/2019 20:52

She sounds like a god awful, manipulative bitch. And she's a mum?! Her poor kid having that as a role model.

Continue to ignore her, whatever she messages you, and take pride in the fact that you're the one who won't get sucked in by her bullshit and boost her ego.

sosickoflove · 28/09/2019 20:58

I feel stupid for developing feelings for her.
It was obvious what she was like and I thought she would just be happy with me.
I should have known

OP posts:
Otterhound · 28/09/2019 22:31

...I should have known....

To be fair, you didn't but you do now.

She can love no one other than herself. You are merely her plaything. Many millions of women have fallen for a cunt thinking their love will change them. It never has and never will. People like her don’t change. EVER.

sosickoflove · 29/09/2019 07:48

I've woke up this morning to a voice message from her.
Haven't listened to it.
It's difficult not to listen but at the same time she only wants attention and like others have said ..
Checking im still hooked

OP posts:
Bucatini · 29/09/2019 07:53

Well done OP for ignoring the message.

Comps83 · 29/09/2019 09:10

Well done. Stick with it

sosickoflove · 29/09/2019 09:24

Thanks everyone
She's a total waste of time
I hope my feelings go fast for her.
I just keep thinking of her having sex with these girls and it's awful.

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Closetbeanmuncher · 29/09/2019 09:42

She doesnt respect or care about you op, and fuck knows where shes been....yuck

She is the type of person that wants others fighting over her as sone sort of twisted ego trip.

Even if you got into a relationship with this woman do you think for one second she'd be loyal? Shes damaged goods and the best thing you can do is give her a very wide berth.

She wants sex and attention nothing more. As soon as you withdraw thise two things she will be off to find her next victim and you will be free to find someone who doesn't have the morals of an alleycat and the sensitivity of an anvil.

No sex, no attention.

sosickoflove · 29/09/2019 10:36

When we first started seeing each other she was acting as if it was going into relationship territory.
She even said I was kind of girlfriend.
Then she just backed away and started sleeping around with the girls.
I didn't do anything wrong did I ?

OP posts:
category12 · 29/09/2019 10:39

No. Again, it's not about you. It's all about her.

Mimithemouse · 29/09/2019 12:45

@harrietsi, just one of the usernames, how many threads have you started, men, women, different ages, all very boring and tedious.

sosickoflove · 29/09/2019 12:50

@Mimithemouse I've posted about her before yes but not about any men.

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Mimithemouse · 29/09/2019 13:26

@sararere
@sallytin
@allypallyt
@whatonej
Just some of your many usernames. The first one posted about a man.
Obviously I spend too much time on this and need to get a life.

LFLM1 · 29/09/2019 18:41

@Mimithemouse how do you know this?

Mimithemouse · 29/09/2019 18:48

Just from being on this the past few months and seeing these threads, they're pretty easy to recognise.

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