Why aren't I good enough?

[sosickoflove]

I started dating her in may,this was my first gay relationship.
Anyway we were going on dates and I thought it was going somewhere,we text daily lots of contact.
Got on well and she told me she wasn't sleeping with anyone else.
Then she said she just wanted us to be friends,it was getting too much into relationship territory.
Here's the thing last week she asked me for a drink.
I met her and within 30 mins she asked me for a kiss and we slept together.
The morning she told me she had slept with another woman the night before,she slept with a waitress the weekend before and also her friend wants a relationship with her but she doesn't but Is sleeping with her.
She told me I'm going to end up hurt and girls have tried and failed to change her.
She told me she was bad news.
She went home and once again non stopped text all week.
She was out last night and this morning she was texting me as usual
She then sent me a screenshot of a convo between her and her friends basically saying she had sex with a random woman again last night.
She said "I've been at it again ha ha ha "
I'm so hurt and I know it's my own fault
How awful to rub it in my face.
I told her last week I had feelings for her.
Why aren't I good enough to be with ?

She's probably lying. It all sounds like bollocks to me, unless you have always known she's like this?

Hey we all make mistakes (and want to think the best of those we fancy). But your blinkers are off now so you can take a step back.

She is a mean person op. Its not just that she doesn't want a relationship, she is also being cruel about it. Sack that.

Cruel people aren't beautiful. They UuuuuuuuGleee.

Look for someone who has a nice soul, like you.

I'm sorry op. I've been with guys like this in the past. If you have strong feelings for her then I'd recommend that you stop contact for a bit and see how it goes. It's hard but your own sanity is important.

I think I need to stop the contact with her because I don't know how I will get over her.
She would probably sleep with me again but that's all Il get.

She's 38, she's not going to change. Tell her to fuck off and stop thinking you will be the one to stop her sleeping around, you won't be. Are you younger than her?

I’d tell her to grow the bloody hell up too. Feel sorry for her kid.

Do you think it's because she doesn't fancy me?
Or she finds me boring?
Or is it just she's a womaniser?
I really hope it's the last one.

She doesn't fancy anyone more than she fancies herself. She sleeps around and messages those she knows like her to let them know she is sleeping with other women. She likes attention op, that's all. Its not about fancying people for people like her - its about them fancying get. That's what she feeds on. Attention. And control over other peoples feelings.

*fancying her

@Pinkbonbon what a miserable way that would be to live tho.
My friend has told me to play her at her own game,I can't be bothered with that tho.

No don’t play any games . Just find someone who isn’t an immature self-obsessed fuckwit

She's just sent me a text ...I'm not even replying

some people love the drama, and the idea that they're so special they have all these ladies hanging off their every word. Just because she's got a vagina doesn't mean she's automatically 'the one'. She's a player, by the sounds of it, and you're better off out of it.

she's not being dishonest, though. She's told you, upfront, that she doesn't want a relationship, she's told you she'll hurt you, and you're asking why you're not good enough?

Do you think you can 'change' her? If so, you're kidding yourself. There's loads of women out there who want something serious, and exclusive. This woman ain't that person. Don't do yourself down, and don't be a doormat. Time to say goodbye. And don't go back. You don't owe her anything. Delete her.

It's not you, it's her.

She told you what she's like, and she's demonstrating it too.

It's not about you at all.

Yup. I'd feel sorry for them if they weren't such gits xD but to be fair, they usually feel sorry enough for themselves anyway. Sounds like yours spun you a right story about an abusive ex 'oh Boohoo woe is me, HE was the evil one waaaaah'. Maybe there was some truth in it. But she's a nasty piece of work too.

Yeh, be prepared for her to either act like actually she wants a relationship with you OR to turn nasty now that you are backing off.

She basically said every one of my ex girlfriends hit me.
They all went crazy and were jealous.
How people meet her and say "your nothing like your ex said you were"
She always attracts the crazy's etc etc
She probably turns them all crazy

Please block her immediately and move on. She's vile and you deserve more.

The old 'all my ex's are crazy' shpeel. Textbook.

She'll be telling other people you are crazy too probably. 'Who is texting you?' 'Oh this crazy girl I had a thing with who won't take a hint'. Two minutes later she'll be texting you 'hey, how's u? Hang later? Xx'.

@sosickoflove I suspect that you're right. She's enjoying the buzz of being able to get who she wants and making you jealous. Delete her number. In six months time you'll be able to see her for what she is.

Last month I lost my temper with her and text her saying
She was messing me about,I had enough,playing games with me and messing with my head
She responded saying she hadn't done anything wrong,I was imaging we were more than we are and I was behaving crazy.

She's the sort of person who gets enjoyment from causing other people pain. She actually sounds rather deranged.

What's even the point of this? What do you get out of it? Here's a bin. Put her in it. 🗑

I think she wants to be a man

She responded saying she hadn't done anything wrong,I was imaging we were more than we are and I was behaving crazy.

So there you go, you're well on the way to being another crazy ex. Speed up the process and cut her out now.

And yet despite you being 'crazy' she us still texting you :/

Dunno about you but if I was screwing about and noticed someone was getting too attached I would back off so as not to hurt them any further. I wouldn't continue to shag them and tell them about all my other conquests too. But then that's just me. ...and everyone else who isn't a total asshole.

I'm sorry you feel like this. This girl is not the one for you. When you meet the right person you will see how wrong this one is for you. Don't let another make you feel like you are not good enough, you are. Hang in there and chin up