Girlfriend upset about my friendships with women.

[Whatamugiwas]

My girlfriend ( 1year together) is not happy about my friendships with women . I have been friends with some of the women since school. One friend In particular, she wants me to cut contact with who I’m
Very close to. She thinks i feel more for her and that the contact and the friendship is too full on at my end. I’ve explained that she is a close friend but my girlfriend was upset with recent social media and messaging interaction. I find myself not contacting my friend very much anymore and things have cooled between us. My friend seems her usual self but does not bother too much with me now which makes me sad.I find myself texting my friend when my girlfriend goes home but my friend is not interested in much contact anymore . What’s up? Should I have done this and agreed to cut contact ? I think I’ve lost my friend.

I’d dump your girlfriend.

And there are some right bunny boilers on this thread. Scary.

@Dogsarebetterthancatsok.

How have you managed to confuse boundaries and bunny boilers??

You ok?

Well OP, your friend is being a good friend by backing away probably knowing the contact may have been rubbing your girlfriend up the wrong way. She hasn't caused a fuss, she hasn't made you stress, she's just simply backed away because she probably thinks that's best.

It is best OP. You used to fancy her, your contact together was too full on. She is taken, as are you. Keep the friendship but not on the scale it was.

Invest all that 'clicking' into your girlfriend. She may well be the mother to your kids and the woman you marry, your friend won't. She will always be your friend but you're late 20's now and to be prioritising your friend over your girlfriend will just end in you being one of those guys that can never settle.

Cheers folks. I’ve paired it back and so has my friend and it’s awkward as the talk is very shallow and casual in our office ow which is nothing like it ever was. The atmosphere is poor and strained . My girlfriend is happy now even if I am disappointed . My friend has kept away and is no longer the funny chatty girl she was with me and I feel formal . It’s odd here.

Stop being an attention seeker or stay single

Get some self control or go with a woman who has loads of men friends and see how that pickle tastes lol. Men