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He lied about his age!!

44 replies

WiseTeddy · 25/03/2019 14:15

What do you think of this...?

I recently met a man on OLD, we had arranged to meet this Friday, however as he was travelling today, he changed it to yesterday. We spoke on the phone twice, the first time, I thought he sounded older than the age on his profile (57). I emailed him my pictures, he sent one and I thought he looked older than 57, but then again some people are not photogenic. (I am 47)

Somehow, I fell that there was something not so right and did not want to meet; as he was travelling to my town, I thought why not. The bar where we had arranged to meet was very quiet except for a party that was going on, so I spotted him straight away.

He was so old, no way 57 and I don't usually ask, but I asked him how old he was as he certainly did not look 57, he told me that he was 67, again he was lying. He had to be at least 87! He wanted to touch me, I told him not to touch me, he wanted to hold my hands like we have been in a relationship forever, again, I told him not to do that.

It was so embarrassing, I did not finish the glass of wine and told him that I had to go to meet a friend. I have blocked and deleted him.
Why would a person lie about their age?

OP posts:
Pieceofpurplesky · 25/03/2019 14:19

To pull a younger woman.

Pieceofpurplesky · 25/03/2019 14:20

It happened to a friend of mine and the photos he sent her were of his grandkids and not his kids as he initially told her

ConfCall · 25/03/2019 14:22

Why? Cos he wants to pull 47 year olds not 80 year olds.

Shaving 20+ years off your age is crazy. He'll never meet anyone!

Thehop · 25/03/2019 14:24

To try to hook younger women.

LifeBeginsNow · 25/03/2019 14:28

That is making me cringe. What did you do? Did you carry on with the date? I'd be too polite but all the while working out an exit strategy.

adulthumanwolf · 25/03/2019 14:30

Creepy fuck.

ShatnersWigIsActuallyAMammoth · 25/03/2019 14:31

@WiseTeddy Newsflash. Women on online dating sites often lie about their age too. Regularly.

CryptoFascist · 25/03/2019 14:33

A friend of mine met a man on OLD who, when he arrived for their date, turned out to have lied about his HEIGHT.

How stupid do these idiots think women are?

Original poster
WiseTeddy · 25/03/2019 14:38

Thank you all for replying. I left after 30 minutes

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Tomtontom · 25/03/2019 14:41

It can be difficult to age people as they get older. 67 could easily look 87 and vice versa. Some people have hard lives!

But he's a creepy fuck anyway so I wouldn't give him any more thought.

Original poster
WiseTeddy · 25/03/2019 14:41

He was badly dressed and carrying a plastic bag - not very appealing at all. It was like been in the worst nightmare ever..... I don't even want to think of the face.

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anniehm · 25/03/2019 14:45

I know a couple of people who are late 60's who I thought were at least 80 until they told me to save the late later this year as they are throwing a big joint 70th birthday party, honestly, if they had said 90 I would not have been surprised. Some people have harder lives

XiCi · 25/03/2019 14:46

Christ. How on earth did you stick it out for 30 minutes!!!

HelloDarlin · 25/03/2019 14:50

I’ve never done OLD, so I don’t know what the profiles are like.
But I’ve always assumed that folk join up because they are lonely?

Sparklfairy · 25/03/2019 14:56

Aside from the age thing, the touching and holding hands made me feel quite sick. I had this on an OLD once (in my 20s). He told me he was just 'tactile'- no mate that's just an excuse to be a perv and invade my personal space!!

Ferfeckssake · 25/03/2019 14:58

Idiot! Did he think you wouldn't notice? Or perhaps his charm would persuade you to overlook the age thing?
Not much fun for you , but makes quite a funny story ....Carrying a plastic bag..ConfusedShock

CassettesAreCool · 25/03/2019 14:59

I had something very similar OP, I must say I just thought it was really funny! You can report him to the site if you feel strongly about it.

BettyDuMonde · 25/03/2019 15:01

OLD sites need a star rating/review system!

Original poster
WiseTeddy · 25/03/2019 15:10

Thank you everyone! @Ferf, he was not even charming @Xici, 30 minutes felt like forever and could not wait to leave..

OP posts:
MIA12 · 25/03/2019 15:25

God you did well to do 30 mins. I’d have turned on my heel and walked straight out! Hope you’re ok OP. Must have been unsettling for you Flowers

Sammiches101 · 25/03/2019 15:33

Flowers that sounds awful OP. OLD makes it easy for people to pull this crap now. I had a date who lied about his age. turns out he was the height of nonsense where as at least a foot taller than him Hmm had he have been honest, it would have been different

Sammiches101 · 25/03/2019 15:34

*height, not age!

Stormyday · 25/03/2019 15:35

Are you sure you’re not exaggerating? Nearly 90?!

PinkieTuscadero · 25/03/2019 15:37

I think knocking 5 years off your actual agree is a bit tragic. Three full decades though? Bloody hell. Can't believe you gave him 30 mins of your life!

Laugh it off and on to the next.

PinkieTuscadero · 25/03/2019 15:37

'actual age'