We have a very large family, with 11 aunts and uncles, at the last count, 40-something cousins and about 12 second cousins. Anyway, my uncle and his GF split up 7 or 8 years ago, when my cousin was 2. I have seen the mum at the school a few times but never seen my cousin. Today I saw her, she is 10 and so big, she looks so much like the rest of the family, you can tell she is related. She doesn't know who I am or that my DC are her second cousins. I find it sad that we have such a large family, yet so many of us have no idea what each other look like..