Think he's cheating?

[underthe]

So about a year ago I found a app on my boyfriend phone when I was looking for his music app 🤦‍♀️ it was a dating app he couldn't of had it long as there wasn't much on there only a picture of himself to a person saying hey this is a picture of myself just in case you want to know what I look like. I asked him about it he said he don't know what I'm talking about he even deleted the app ect till I showed him the screenshot then he was like I was just seeing what it was ect, now today I switched of his alarm for work and it came up with a selfie he has taken last night he slept on the sofa, I asked and he deleted it and said he don't know what I'm taking about 😭 till I got up his deleted pictures and it was there he said he hasn't done anything and he was embarrassed that I seen the selfie he has been taken there was more then one in his deleted pictures! I'm worried he set up a website or something? I'm I bring to over the top! 😭

I really can't get me head around why people feel the need to do this. I could never respect a man or woman who was that much of a sleaze/attention whore

Prepare yourself for a tirade of the most wanky excuses known to man

Do you have a friend or family member to come round. You need some support x

Oh underthe I am so sorry
Are you ok? Do you have anyone you can talk to tonight?

I have no one, my best friend move 300 miles away 😭 and no close family

Oh underthe 🙁
Will he stay away tonight do you think? Or try to come back/contact you?
Do you think he ever met any of the women?

I don't think he has but he could if I guess, he's sent me a message saying he's sorry but he hasn't message anyone and he was just using it for porn! X

My door is lock he's saying he is sleeping in his car but I don't care to be honest

How can we help you?

There's so much free porn the internet. Why would you need to interact and pay someone. This is completely different to porn imo

That’s not porn OP he’s grasping at straws, he’s a cheat and a liar you know this now I hope you have someone you can ask for support don’t give a shit where he goes, he’s disgusting stay strong you deserve so much more than this loser.

So sorry OP, i have no words just sending you a hug

Aw how awful, sending you big hugs

You've done the right thing, I would have thrown him out too. Do not take him back, you deserve so much better.

Just remember you are not the one who's broken up the family, he has - so do not feel guilty for any of this. You are the innocent victim in this, you've had a nasty shock but need to stay strong. Just let things calm down, then agree times etc that he can see or have the children.

You will never trust him again so need to move on without him, things will get easier xx

Omg what an asshole!
I'm so sorry he's done this to you! Can't believe he swore on the kids and he was lying!! 😡😡😡 such a scumbag!

You've done the right thing in kicking him out! You deserve so much more.

He's still saying he used the porn and only ever paid for one website I don't be believe him at all I'm at a list of what to do now

I mean lost not list

Oh how awful for you. It’s not you whose done this, it’s him. Remember that.
He’s only admitting to things he thinks you know. It’s typical behaviour of a cheat and the reason why he’s not admitting to meeting anyone, as he thinks there’s no way of you finding this out.

Even if he has never met any of them, how do you feel about his behaviour? What do you mean about him paying for it?

Classic, only admitting what he thinks you know about. What a shit

I joined my fitness pal years ago and its shocking the amount married people on there who use it for sex chat..

Sorry to derail, but this is a thing?!?!?
I've had myfitness pal for 10 years, shite at dieting. I cant believe that's what anyone uses it for.
Madness. Just shows no where on the internet is safe.

OP make him leave fully. At the very least you need (lots of) time to think and plan without him emotionally playing you.

He paid for a subscription for one! I don't know I was angry I couldn't look probably, it's just hard i financially rely on him and I know it's not about the money but I have 3 kids a house and a car to keep going, I can't and won't ever trust him again so I can't forgive him

He's saying his has a wanking addiction! He's not used the webcam but he does it every morning and evening he's here with the kids now and i look at him I feel sick

It's threads like these I wish the resident pro porners would pay attention to. There's so many like this on a weekly basis, yet they'll all jump on saying how harmless porn is, just a means to an end, blah blah, yet in reality it's ruining marriages and children's lives almost daily, and that's just a very small amount reported here on mn.

Sorry to derail op. I'm sorry he's done this to you.

Sorry to hear that.

He's minimising here, saying it's porn and not cheating.

That picture you took showed message sent 'yesterday' didn't it? Might be wrong, but that alone would be enough for me to realise what's really going on.

cheating websites exist and people don't often show their faces on there for fear of being caught, but quickly move on to Kik or another messengers which doesn't need a phone number. It looks like that's why he's sent the selfie, to show the other person what he looks like.

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