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Viagra in his car

33 replies

geton · 15/09/2018 18:18

Just found a pack of viagra in dp car with two missing. As far as I'm aware he hasn't used them with me. I have no idea when he bought them but he is away this weekend.

How do I confront him about this and ensure I get the truth? I'm no good at confrontation and tend to believe people to easily.

The other question is when? Text him while he is away or wait for him to come back tomorrow?

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BitOutOfPractice · 15/09/2018 18:19

Confront him face to face.

MrsMozart · 15/09/2018 18:20

What's your home situation?

TomHardysNextWife · 15/09/2018 18:26

If he's away this weekend, do you know where and what he's up to?

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geton · 15/09/2018 18:28

He's on a lads weekend helping a friend get over a break up Hmm

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cactusplant · 15/09/2018 18:29

Can you look again when he gets back from lads weekend and see if any more than two have gone?
If they have op it doesn't matter what he says to you you know he's lying

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geton · 15/09/2018 18:31

He hasn't taken his car this weekend. I just looked in his boot for something and found the pack with two missing under some paper work.

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Petalflowers · 15/09/2018 18:32

I wouldn’t Confront him without snooping first. Get hold of his phone (or computer) and see if there’s any suspicious tel numbers, emails, Facebook messenger, or texts. Is there anything to suggest he’s not where he should be.

Has he been ‘working late’, taken more care of his appearance, been secretaries about his,phone?

Maybe phone him and see if you can deduce whether he is where he says he is.

loveyoutothemoon · 15/09/2018 18:37

Does he actually have a friend who's had a break up, could it be a lie?

caffelatte100 · 15/09/2018 18:39

OH I am sorry but this really doesn't look good does it?

What are you thinking he's up to.

girlalmighty · 15/09/2018 18:43

No innocent explanation for this. I'd be phoning him and ruining his weekend.

girlalmighty · 15/09/2018 19:11

Are you ok op?

cactusplant · 15/09/2018 19:52

Call him and confront him op

Studentnurse1981 · 15/09/2018 20:13

Sorry but this is not good . I reckon he is lying about being on a lads weekend and is probably With on OW

Studentnurse1981 · 15/09/2018 20:13

Really sorry op but the writings on the wall. Hugs

Aprilshowersnowastorm · 15/09/2018 20:23

Have you heard from him? Is he contactable?

HarmlessChap · 15/09/2018 21:37

If he needs ED meds wouldn't he have taken them if he was away with an OW?

Its quite an emasculating thing to admit you need them, you don't believe he has used them with you but he may have been using them for a while and hiding the fact.

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geton · 15/09/2018 23:04

Currently, I am feeling surprisingly calm.
He hasn't given me any reason to think he has been cheating. But why is it hidden in his car with two tablets missing?
I'll look forward to hearing his explanation tomorrow.

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thejeangenie36 · 15/09/2018 23:15

I'm a man and I'm not sure that the fact that these tablets are hidden is in and if itself indication of an affair. ED would be a massively embarrassing thing for me (and I suspect many other blokes) and if I had to use Viagra with my OH I'd probably hide it from them.

Thierryhenryneedisaymore · 15/09/2018 23:23

Has this story not been on before??

Original poster
geton · 15/09/2018 23:27

It's not a story!

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Original poster
geton · 15/09/2018 23:29

Nice to hear a male point of view. ED is a possibility but he has no reason to be embarrassed or hide it from me.

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Scrumptelicious · 15/09/2018 23:32

Are you the same poster from last week?

thejeangenie36 · 16/09/2018 00:07

OP, believe me, he has every reason to be embarrassed. Size and ability down there is a massive part of male identity (jokes at school etc). It's a big mental health issue for men of a certain age, and one which I think isn't readily understood by women. Not saying that you shouldn't be suspicious, but equally I wouldn't jump to the affair conclusion in that evidence alone.

janaus · 16/09/2018 00:08

I wouldn’t confront him yet, I would wait and watch carefully. Will surely trip himself up soon. Take photos of the pkt with 2 missing.

This is how I played it after the same thing.

Blameanamechange · 16/09/2018 00:10

Sounds like the poster that was on here last week.

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