Hand hold until I can talk to DH?

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Was trying to be helpful and look for DH's iPad. Found some condoms which we never use. They expire in May 2020 so I'm guessing bought fairly recently. Also found a new size 12 suspender belt and some L/XL stockings in the same bag, again, not my size.

I think I've suspected something for a while. Obviously I may be totally wrong, but the way the condoms are ripped, one set of four and one two makes it look like a couple have been used.

I've left it all on DS's changing mat. I'm not sure what to do with it.

Not sure why I'm posting. I just need a hand hold I guess.

Hand hold OP

That's shit. You must be feeling awful. Are you planning to confront him when you see him or hold your fire till you can see what else might be going on?

I'm not good at the emotional hand holding, I'm better with the practical side. I would suggest that you spend the day collecting copies of all important documents like bank and pension statements just in case, the search might take your mind off of the cause?

I hope there's a reasonable explanation for you when you see him, I'm sorry.

Dear God , when's he due back?
Can you have a friend of family member come over ?
It's so horrible and shocking just try not to let the emotion of it all drive you crazy.
There will be answers and decisions , one step at a time.

So sorry OP.
Definitely got important docs together today, and try to gather your thoughts before he comes home.

Oh my god, I'm so sorry OP.
I hope you can clear your head a bit before you do see him. Agree, regarding getting important documents together.

So sorry OP here for a handhold keep chatting we are all here ready to listen and there are some fantastic MNers on here to give you practical advice when you're ready

Bastard.

Agree with pp. Get copies/take photos of important docs.
Take a photo of the condoms etc so that he can't get rid and deny/gas light. Is there a receipt in the bag?

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry, what an awful way to find out (not that there is a good way of course)
When is he due Home?

Definitely get yours and your children's important documents together just in case this snowballs into something nasty. Passports, birth certificates, bank stuff etc. I'm sorry hun.

We are here for you OP :)

handhold;

Another one hand holding.

I'm sorry I'm going to look a right idiot now.

I called DH because I couldn't wait, he had no idea what I was going on about. I went rummaging for more evidence, and found the invoice from Ann summers, and noticed all the labels sewn onto the clothes.

It's my brothers bag, not DH's. I forgot we were storing it for him.

Text DB who's mortified. And DH is going to think I'm an idiot.

Thank you all so much for the quick hand hold though. It really is lovely to know mumsnet is there when you need it.

Oh gosh, how stressful. Thank goodness it wasn’t DHs but still a horrible shock.

That's fantastic news congrats on your mistake! I'm sure you'd much rather feel a bit of an idiot than have to deal with such a horrible problem.

Thanks Gummy!

I'm going to run some cake down the road in a bit try to apologise!

Thank god it was just your db's bag, glad it worked out in the end! Ha

Oh OP I'd have made the same error.
Have a big sigh of relief and a piece of

DB is now begging me not to tell DM because he doesn't want her thinking he has a girlfriend

I may tell her he crossdresses instead ...

omg this is funny NOW.... thank goodness OP

Phew lol

Are these name tags sewn in to the clothes ?

This is fucking hilarious 😂

So glad they were your DB