Should the mother pay 50/50 towards bills when on maternity leave?

[Rachelone]

Hello,
I have discussed this with my partner and he would like me to continue to contribute half towards the mortgage and bills while on maternity leave. To do so I will need to use a redundancy pay out that I was given during the first stages of pregnancy. He earns a very high wage.

No not in your case! I would be highly dubious about a man who earnt far more than me yet expected me to contribute equally whilst I was on reduced pay due to maternity leave. It would not bode well for how supportive he was going to turn out to be in the long run. As a team you may need one or the other to step up sometimes in a way that is not exactly equal but is fair. You are carrying his child, taking that risk on your own body for both of you. If he is earning far more than you he ought to be at the very least contributing slightly more when you are unable to work due to having his child.

Maybe he would understand if someone mentioned to him that if you left him youd probably stand to get more financial support forced out of him. Also if he had to pay someone other than you to care for the baby he would be paying more than hes actually contributing for you now. That isnt right is it? That you suffer financially because you love and are in a relationship with him. He shouldnt be skanking you to make a profit which is essentially what he is doing by not covering the shortfall from your maternity pay.

What a waste of time having a child with somebody like this. It's totally pointless. IMHO.

Add up whatever your 50% of the six months(?) maternity leave costs would be and then tell him that that is the fee for nine months' rent on your uterus. Bill him with interest.

HTH.

I moved into my partner’s house the month before I had our son. My partner pays the mortgage and bills, whilst I do all chores/cooking/shopping for the house and everything for our son. I have offered on numerous occasions to pay half of bills and he doesn’t want me to. However, he frequently reminds me that this is his house and I’m lucky to not have bills to pay. In the past, he has laughed at how little I had saved or how little I earn. I know I have been fortunate to not pay bills but I spend a lot of time and money on the house and shopping. I go back to work in sept after a year off, so I’ve been on maternity pay. I’ve also worked evenings from home since the beginning of June. Now, he has transferred all money I had saved from the joint account back to me, and we are going to have a formal arrangement of what we each pay for bills (minus mortgage), things for our son and food shopping.
I’d really like your opinions on this, please.🤷🏼‍♀️

Maybe he is just hard of thinking but I'd seriously consider leaving him if he doesn't buck up his ideas - are you supposed to bear all the childcare costs

This is an old thread Meau. Start up a new one and you might get more response

Thank you. I have just started a new one.

So he expects you, the mother, to take the full hit for having your joint baby?!

My money with H has always been shared so there is no 50:50 split. Very mean of your partner to insist on this

@InionEile that's genius!