Can ExH decide when DD meets my new partner?

[sunshiney78]

ExH left for OW & moved in with her a month later. He sees DD6 every other w/end at his mum's (his choice, or maybe OW's choice who knows?). I wouldn't introduce my DD to my new partner for as long as possible, but I know exh is going to be abroad a lot over the next few months & won't have DD for up to 3 weeks at a time, so logistically, it may happen that DD meets my "friend". ExH is not happy about this. As I say, I wouldn't want to introduce DD any time soon, but was just wondering if ExH can forbid it?

No. He may not like it but he vetoed his say in your personal life the moment he chose the OW.

Why are you letting him control you? If DD has met his bf why can't she meet your bf?

Tell him to fuck right off. He has no control over that. Clearly he still wants to control you though.

Of course he can’t bloody forbid it, especially if he’s in another country

Of course your ExH cant forbid you introducing your friend to your DD.
Your divorced he has no say what you do with your life.

Tell him to fuck off
This ^
He can't dictate to you.

How would he even know until after the event when DD might mention it?

No, neither of you can say who your DD meets/spends time with when she is with the other parent. Your Ex can be unhappy about it all he likes but there's fuck all he can actually do about it....legally. However, he's free to be an arse about it

Thank you. Was just wondering because he has sent me a very formal email stating "as DD's parent, I do not give my consent for her to meet new partner in any way, including by accident etc." New partner also offered to meet ExH beforehand, but ExH doesn't want that.

Response 'as dds parent who is in a new relationship because she is divorced after dds biological father cheated on her, not to mention said biological father is absent for weeks at a time, dd will meet whoever I choose. Thank you for your concern.'

The biological part would just be to shit stir him

😅

Of course he can’t dictate when you introduce new partner to your dd. No more than you can dictate to him.

Obviously it is best to decide when it is best for the child.

Bet you're glad the controlling pompous fuckwit is someone else's problem now!
I wouldn't wish going through the OW situation on anyone, but long term... ugh, imagine still being with that arse!

No, he can't forbid it

You go ahead and make your own decision, which I'm sure will be sensible.

I disagree a bit with the comment above that if you daughter can meet his GF she can meet your BF. In principle, of course - yes. But I do think we have to be careful with event timing. One reason my fiancé and I delayed him moving in was because my XH's GF moved in. We felt it wasn't right to have two major home changes in the same year. I do think sometimes one new partner is a good reason not to introduce another for a while. But - it's certainly not his decision to make. Cock!!!!!

As others have said he gets no say as you don’t with who he introduces to dd (unless of course there is safeguarding issues).
But, has he introduced dd to his partner? I get from your op that he hasn’t.

This is a validating moment.
You dodged a bullet, this daft lump could still be your significant other.
Enjoy the relief whilst ignoring him.
Or reply with equally silly demands like you insist DD never encounters asparagus or grime music in his care.

Naicebiscuit's reply is perfect - makes the point and reinforces that he has no right to dictate anything that happens when dd is with you.

He can't dictate that anymore than you can dictate when he introduces the OW to your DD. He can express a preference. You can ignore it. Focus on what's right for your child and don't worry about him.

The cheek of the man makes my blood boil. My ex did this shortly after he left for another woman. Sent me an email saying if he saw a car on the drive or parked around the corner he would reduce my maintenance!
We have been apart 6 years now and in all that time I would never have considered moving anyone in and disrupting my children's lives which has been my decision.

He sounds very jealous and controlling. Your life your child your decision. He’s the one who left

I'm confused. You introduced OW to DD. But anyway, suppose you will take me to court to try and involve yourself in my private life

I’m at “ controlling pompous fuckwit “ . Describes my ex to a T. There’s so many of them about .

I know it’s not NaiceBiscuits and I says as everyone else as that he gets no say. But I don’t know the man and I can’t say from Op’s post that he’s doing this to be controlling or anything as some people can. He may just be a father concerned for his daughter.

As much as I know I can’t do anything about it, if he really wanted to. I’d have concerns if my ex was wanting to introduce someone to our DD and I know he would if I were.

He doesn’t give his consent ! Twat !!

Tell him to fuck right off