Can ExH decide when DD meets my new partner?

[sunshiney78]

ExH left for OW & moved in with her a month later. He sees DD6 every other w/end at his mum's (his choice, or maybe OW's choice who knows?). I wouldn't introduce my DD to my new partner for as long as possible, but I know exh is going to be abroad a lot over the next few months & won't have DD for up to 3 weeks at a time, so logistically, it may happen that DD meets my "friend". ExH is not happy about this. As I say, I wouldn't want to introduce DD any time soon, but was just wondering if ExH can forbid it?

[Justbookedasummmerholiday]

His marriage vows should have prevented him from dipping his penis in another woman but they didn't .
Tell him doesn't life just suck??

[wobblywonderwoman]

A big fuck off to him

[SandyY2K]

And he cheated on you.... the cheek... is tell him you'll do as you please .. just as he did. Foolish man.

[sunshiney78]

He is controlling. He tried to convince me not to use a lawyer for a divorce because it'd be like a "red rag to a bull" for him. And he warned me if my lawyer came at him, he would come back harder.
No safeguarding issues. I'm in no hurry to introduce any more confusion/stress to DDs life, was just wondering what he's rights were regarding this. I did tell him I was fine with DD meeting OW & would like to meet her first, but neither seem interested.
He never came across as a concerned father before (strong narcissitic traits), and it seems like a mission for him to have her when he does.

[Kr1st1na]

Naice biscuits gives good advice .

I’d do what she says. But write a really snotty email first and delete it without sending it.

[Somersetter]

I get the impression from his wording that he very much considers himself your superior / more intelligent than you. Trying to sound all legal and impressive.

Agree with advice to ignore - don't give him the satisfaction of a response. Totally up to you when she meets your new partner - and assuming she lives with you the majority of the time, you're much better placed your ex to decide when the right time is anyway.

[fuzzywuzzy]

Bloody hell Sunshiney I sincerely hope you got yourself a shit hot lawyer!

[bastardkitty]

Maybe just reply 'PMSL' - what an idiot.

[HouseworkIsAPain]

Naices advice is excellent.

Be a grey rock. Give him nothing to needle you. Make handovers really breezy. Only respond to emails about DD contract schedules etc.

[ReanimatedSGB]

I'd be inclined to text back 'Your opinion is irrelevant', myself but it's probably better to follow the grey rock strategy.

[Katanna]

Op, your ex is clearly a giant knob. Tell the cheating fucker to do one. He cannot dictate what you do. Get a good lawyer and stipulate all said corespondance goes through said lawyer. Fuckwit!

[RamblinRosie]

Just reply "understood ", then carry on as suits you. You've promised nothing, you owe him nothing.

[Mom2K]

"Your consent is not required"



Then delete and ignore. Honestly this doesn't warrant a response. Difficult not to react but in situation like this (where he's just trying to control a situation he legally has no say in) it's better not to respond and fan those flames