"Love is a commitment, not a feeling" - do you agree?

[pieceofpietuesday]

Agree or disagree with this?

Its more than a feeeeling!

(sorry)

I think it's both to be honest. If you really love someone, you will want to commit to them. And love is a feeling/emotion. So I would say both.

Love is a feeling.

Love doesn’t always equal commitment, Some people love each other but for many reason can’t be together, some people are still in love with an ex from long ago for example

People have been trying to define 'love' for years! Tbh I give the hell up! Love is complicated!

I cant remember who said it but...

Love is giving the other person the better coloured tea.

Love is a choice, it’s evidenced in actions. Passion, lust, affection are feelings. Love is behaviour IMO.

Love is a choice you make. It's a verb. You show your love. If you don't show your love, then it isn't love in my opinion.

Love is a verb.

Love is an action, how you act towards a person. Not just a feeling.

Love is a feeling. Loving is a commitment.

Love is something you feel. It is personal. You can love someone without them even knowing it or returning it.

Loving is something you do, not feel. It is in every word, decision and action and is as much about what the other person feels as what you feel. It is an exchange. Ongoing loving is a commitment.

It is easy to love someone. Sometimes it can't be helped. It's not so easy to be loving towards someone. Love is not enough for a relationship. It's the loving that is important.

So, I disagree.

Why does it need to be either/or?

Depends what you want out of life? What life has taught me is a life relationship is more than just feelings. It's about true commitment on both sides. Love is a feeling but a life relationship needs far more than just love, including commitment and dedication to each other. I'm not sure everyone is cut out for that or desires that?

Depends what you want out of life? What life has taught me is a life relationship is more than just feelings. It's about true commitment on both sides. Love is a feeling but a life relationship needs far more than just love, including commitment and dedication to each other. I'm not sure everyone is cut out for that or desires that?

Love doesn’t mean commitment.

Love is actions, not words.

Feelings are a part of it.
Commitment? That depends on what is agreed.

I believe love is an action. It's not about just saying the word ... but it's your actions.
You can be commited, without love.

Disagree

Feeling means 2 things. It means the physiological response, and the emotion accompanying it. Love isn't physiology, (although that's certainly a big part of romantic love) and I think its more than emotion, because love lasts decades and emotions don't (see the thread dh is smelly and annoying and all the responses 'you're hormonal, preg or perimenopause?')
Sooo, love love is a drug
Love is a verb
Love is s choice.

Which is probably why there is so much poetry about it!

Or maybe it's a feeling of commitment

Disagree - the opposite.

Feeling precedes commitment, and commitment often continues long after feeling has waned.

Love is a feeling that you put into practice if that makes sense. You can have commitment without love I think, but not love without commitment.

Love is a feeling. What commitment do you have to someone that's dead, you don't but you still love them.

Love is a feeling without a doubt and exists and continues whether or not it is acknowledged or reciprocated and its fucking annoying and I really really wish it would go away!

This is long but excellent. He outlines what society tells us about love, where those ideas came from, and how they can be helpful or damaging. He's also very funny.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=sPOuIyEJnbE

(But I don't know how to do the linky thing.)

It’s a feeling. There can’t always be commitment.

Love can last without commitment but commitment can kill it.

PuertoVallarta the de Botton video--fantastic!