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Overwhelmed and fucked off

67 replies

babycow38 · 30/04/2017 23:52

I work , raise two kids, and my bf said to me tonight, your legs arnnt as smooth, we were having sex and I completely switched off, felt meh and told him so, we got into a conversation why, and I said you made me feel crap because I haven't had time to shave, he then said , if you value me and our sex life you would find the time, who is wrong? I'm sick to death of having to pluck, shave, make myself into a tricking Barbie, do other women do this and if they do can you let me know where the from you got it in x

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yetmorecrap · 30/04/2017 23:56

Never had this issue because I've never got involved with anyone who gave a stuff to be honest and they have all been attractive guys. I blame porn OP, some guys seem to expect you to be constantly like a barbie doll and always 'up for it' too.

Siwdmae · 30/04/2017 23:58

He's a twat. Does he help much at home? He sounds pathetically superficial.

Whosthemummynow · 01/05/2017 00:00

When did he last shave his legs?

MommaGee · 01/05/2017 00:09

If DH waited for me too beautify myself for him he'd be best friends with his hand.
Tell him if he loved you he'd have a six pack or longer hair or less stubble or a firmer bottom and see if he figures it out. We wouldn't be intimate until he had

TheoriginalLEM · 01/05/2017 00:11

Yuck - get rid

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babycow38 · 01/05/2017 00:34

Sorry,that was meant to say where do you get the time, but other posters have said they do not go along with the shave every bit of hair off, really happy to hear that, my oh thinks if. I have a stray leg, underarm,tuppence (my word, Iam not a pussy) then I am not feminine.

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Iflyaway · 01/05/2017 00:42

You work and raise 2 kids so you kick ass.

So why do you let a wanker like him judge you because you don't have time to shave?!

Fuck him!

Does he have any redeeming qualities? Apart from being a fuck wit?

Teabagtits · 01/05/2017 00:42

My oh complains about my hairy legs he loses access to my hairy hole. And imo access to a hairy hole is better than no hole. Seriously I hate hearing about men making these grooming demands of women and how this has filtered through to what is now considered normal for a woman. Op you do what makes YOU happy and if he doesn't like it then go on hairy strike.

#monthehair!

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 01/05/2017 01:06

Is his cock made of gold? It must be, for you to be putting up with this shite.

Tell him to do one. Your legs, your choice. Your Mary, you can let it go hairy.

Of course, it's then his choice if he wants to keep having sex with you or not. I'm pretty sure that he would be no great loss.

anxiousnow · 01/05/2017 01:12

If he valued you in anyway, not just your sex life, he wouldn't even think such a thing, let alone say it and I would tell him so. Sorry OP but that is disgusting of him

BlackeyedSusan · 01/05/2017 01:27

ah well, stuff him. stupid idiot, he has just talked himself out of sex until he apologieses then.

Ceto · 01/05/2017 01:35

By that token, he must have a totally flawless body, otherwise he doesn't value you and your sex life. Something tells me he doesn't, though.

seoulsurvivor · 01/05/2017 01:38

My husband has never complained.

I have sensitive skin and shaving and waxing hurts and leaves red bumps and stuff.

Only immature little babies care that much about a bit of hair.

scoobydoo1971 · 01/05/2017 01:46

Tell him 'if you value me and our sex life....', let me pour boiling hot wax on your pubes darling, it might hurt a bit when I tear those strips slowly...but hey I am so worth it.

Moanyoldcow · 01/05/2017 02:04

I've been with a fair few men. Literally not one has given a shit about my hairy legs, muff or pits. I shaved my legs yesterday for the second time this year (took 3 razors Blush) and DH didn't even notice.

A preference is fine but putting you down or making you feel inadequate is outrageous.

sarahmum27 · 01/05/2017 02:19

Bin him off. What a superficial nob head.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 01/05/2017 03:26

It's a dickish thing for him to say to you.

For me personally though, I shave my underarms, legs and vulva all completely off every time I shower, which is every other day. Because I keep on top of it, it takes literally two minutes and is no hassle.

I do it for myself though, because I hate body hair on both men and women, so I prefer to get rid.

StrawberryJelly00 · 01/05/2017 03:47

Ugh! He could have offered to have the children for a day whilst you have a pamper day - and made it special for you!

You don't need that attitude of his, no understanding.

WateryTart · 01/05/2017 06:15

He's a prick.

mainlywingingit · 01/05/2017 10:04

I hope that he - works out, has perfect breath, prompt with his hair cuts, does the DIY and all
Other masculine things and earns enough money to make you happy and spoil you "just like the 🎥 movies"

Arsehole

Chops2016 · 01/05/2017 10:20

My DH couldn't give a crap when I haven't had time to shave. It bothers me more than him really.

Next time he wants sex tell him you're turned off because he isn't clean shaven/isn't trimmed nicely down there/is a judgemental ass.

PushingThru · 01/05/2017 10:25

He obviously doesn't like sex much if he can conjure up a criticism like this.

histinyhandsarefrozen · 01/05/2017 10:30

He's a twat.

I don't shave my legs all winter (its not summer yet, is it?!)

I know DH prefers them shaved. Ha. We still manage to have sex though and he knows my legs are not a statement about him.

SoulAccount · 01/05/2017 10:32

Generations of men before this one never expected women to denude themselves if all hair.

Marriages and relationships thrived, The human race continued.

Go figure.

Notmyrealname85 · 01/05/2017 10:33

If he has any hair... Say sweetly "omg I'm glad we can be so honest witngb each other...you know, I don't love hairy chests/ balls, why don't I book us a double appointment at the salon. It doesn't hurt a bit!". Meanwhile book him a waxing appointment and you a massage, and make him go first.

What a twat