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Bj question

53 replies

Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 16:20

If it is something you don't enjoy doing? Do you do it once in a blue moon to make an effort ? I'm having this discussion at the moment with dh.

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Teddy6767 · 27/04/2017 16:23

Yes I find it boring and gives me jaw ache but I'll do it when my DP wants one (which thankfully isn't too often as he's happy doing other things together in the bedroom)

Justmadeperfectflapjacks · 27/04/2017 16:23

Always wind dh up that they are for Xmas and birthdays only!!
Same as anything else really - have to be I the mood - but then do enjoy it!!

JustAKitten · 27/04/2017 16:24

I love doing it but I don't think that's the majority view.

Oblomov17 · 27/04/2017 16:26

One of my favourite things. I prefer it to piv sex. Quick, easy, satisfied husband. What's not to like?

Smeaton · 27/04/2017 16:26

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hellsbellsmelons · 27/04/2017 16:30

I love the whole give and take or oral sex.
It's the best bit!

Joysmum · 27/04/2017 16:32

I'll do something I don't enjoy if my dh likes it enough, but I won't do something I actually dislike.

MrsBellefleur · 27/04/2017 16:32

I dislike doing them and it's a once in a blue moon thing for me to do and I have to be prepared. I also dislike receiving oral so at least I'm fair!

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Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 16:33

Smeaton - dh doesn't like it either so don't do it, me on the other hand I'm happy to do it. I obviously not going to bully him into giving oral but I would be happy if sometimes he felt generous Smile

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Smeaton · 27/04/2017 16:50

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Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 16:54

We discussed it in lighthearted way like this thread...we talked about it last night, I was just wondering how it is with other couple.

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GoatLePew · 27/04/2017 16:54

Why did you not post this in the Sex section OP?
Hmm

MirandaWest · 27/04/2017 16:57

Maybe the OP hasn't been a member for enough time to be able to post in the sex section (think it's 3 months?)

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Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 17:02

Nope I have been a member for 11 years ! I didn't know about the sex section...do I need to apologise ? Was it a massive faux-pas to start this thread in relationship ?

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Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 17:03

Goat - you come across as a bit passag Grin

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ClopySow · 27/04/2017 17:12

Why can't someone post a sex question in relationships?

loveyoutothemoon · 27/04/2017 17:19

I love blow jobs!

ArsenalsPlayingAtHome · 27/04/2017 17:41

One of my favorite things to do! I get hugely turned on by it, as opposed to just doing it because DH loves it, iyswim.

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 27/04/2017 18:00

I like giving them if they are well received, but really only if I'm on my knees and the man is standing up so I can grab his arse (that's really good!), or if he's on top during a 69. I'm a bit meh about them if he's lying down though but will still do them in that position.

RaingodsWithZippos · 27/04/2017 18:08

I learned about sex reading Cosmo and so have always done blow jobs from the first time I was intimate with someone because I thought everyone did! I don't mind doing it and sometimes really fancy doing it. DH had never had one till he met me - I can't believe he got to the grand old age of 42 without having a bj or doing anal! He has to be in the mood to reciprocate but when he does he is very good so I don't mind it not being always on the menu. Usually when he shaves me he does it.

ShiningArmour · 27/04/2017 18:13

usually when he shaves me he does it wtf Grin

JustAKitten · 27/04/2017 18:18

he got to the grand old age of 42 without having a bj or doing anal

That's the most vanilla thing I've read Shock

TheNaze73 · 27/04/2017 18:20

Raingods 42 without oral or anal?? WTAF. He must now feel like he's won the lottery Grin

NotTheFordType · 27/04/2017 18:21

I love giving oral (and receiving.) Honestly, the less BJs men get at home, the more clients for me, so crack on with the BJ hate.

Orlandointhewilderness · 27/04/2017 18:24

Ohh love giving them, I find it a massive turn on. But don't like receiving it.