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Bj question

53 replies

Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 16:20

If it is something you don't enjoy doing? Do you do it once in a blue moon to make an effort ? I'm having this discussion at the moment with dh.

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Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 18:26

I find it really sexy and I feel very powerful/in control when I do it :)...as for anal, I did it in the old days before dh, I can live without !

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SteppingOnToes · 27/04/2017 18:29

69 for me - if i'm giving it, I'll be taking it too thanks very much :)

Mermaidinthesea123 · 27/04/2017 18:32

hate it.

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Thetitisright · 27/04/2017 18:40

Last time dh and I did a 69, dh felt like I was kneading his but as if it was 2 loaves of bread 😂

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Emboo19 · 27/04/2017 18:49

I really love giving! He's completely at my mercy when I do and I love how I can effect him like that.

I prefer receiving as part of sex. Usually before, occasionally afterwards. Just oral alone for me tends to leave me not 100% satisfied even though I always orgasm with it. My boyfriend loves giving too.

For me a 69 is a bit 'meh' I don't dislike it, but I wouldn't choose it either (if that makes sense!) My boyfriend likes it though and I'm happy to oblige occasionally!!

DoIDontIhavethetalk · 27/04/2017 18:51

If it turns you off don't do it. I personally love giving them but only if the receiver finds them a massive turn on

ShuttyTown · 27/04/2017 18:53

@NotTheFordType ???!!!

RaingodsWithZippos · 27/04/2017 18:58

shining I have a bad back so reaching down to shave is painful. DH goes at my vag with his beard trimmer whenever I feel like it's becoming unruly Wink

ShiningArmour · 27/04/2017 19:00

Sorry Raingods as you were.

WorshipTheGourd · 27/04/2017 19:20

Like most parts of sex, it is only good if the other person is really into it.

CherryMintVanilla · 27/04/2017 19:22

I mean, it's not something you do for yourself, or women would be fellating their dildo's!

Of course I prefer to receive rather than give, but it's only polite to reciprocate...

donajimena · 27/04/2017 19:26

cherry
PMSL Grin best line on mumsnet ever

WorshipTheGourd · 27/04/2017 19:33

Cherry Grin

But some of us prefer to give rather than receive (oral). I do.
Not on a dildo though!

Can't quite believe I am typing this!!! I've been on MN for, ooh, 6 yrs now.

And never posted about this sort of thing. Very odd, (for me!)

JustAKitten · 27/04/2017 19:37

Cherry not strictly true. Plenty of people enjoy to give oral, either because they get off on pleasing their partner or they get off on having a man at their mercy. Or both.

abbiebunn · 27/04/2017 19:38

Love them!

twattymctwatterson · 27/04/2017 19:57

I wouldn't expect someone to do something they didn't enjoy.

UrsulaPandress · 27/04/2017 19:59

I'm with goat. This is what the sex topic is for.

#prude.

AudTheDeepMinded · 27/04/2017 20:40

Why the heck did you open the thread then? Cover your eyes and go and find a nice embroidery topic or summat.

NapoleonsNose · 27/04/2017 20:50

Don't really like giving them but I will for 'special occasions'. I like receiving though. Wish I could make myself like giving as DH loves them, but I can't.

whitershadeofpale · 27/04/2017 21:01

I always thought it was something you did 'for someone' but with DP I love doing it, he really enjoys them and the power and knowledge that I'm able to give him that pleasure is a real turn on.

Generally though since we've met I've enjoyed all sex far more than I ever have, as the emotional connection allows me to let go and enjoy in a more instinctive way (sorry if that sounds too wanky 😂)

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 27/04/2017 21:16

BJ every time for DP, which is 3-4 times a week.

I love doing it and sometimes it's the only thing that will make me orgasm too, while he's touching me.

We do a bit of PIV as fore play but his BJ and him touching me for about 40mins/10 orgasms are the main events.

I like 'edging' so I take him to just before the point of no return then stop, 3 or 4 times to make it last 6 minutes a bit longer. It does get a bit hard work when it's taking a long time so I do sometimes give up and make it a handy but I know he prefers it to finish in situ!

I don't like receiving oral though. Too self conscious and also it's too intense. Apparently he's never done it but has offered. Would rather have him up this end kissing me Smile

If I wanted him to give me oral and he refused I'd be less inclined to do it as much for him though. As much as I enjoy it, it's about give and take.

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 27/04/2017 21:18

And I have occasionally had something else (dildo, fingers etc) in my mouth but the buzzing nearly knocked my teeth out Blush

mummabearfoyrbabybears · 27/04/2017 23:14

My husband has a friend that can suck his own Confused he's very tall and slim!

yetmorecrap · 28/04/2017 01:14

Much prefer it to piv sex! Both giving and receiving

LellyMcKelly · 28/04/2017 01:27

I LOVE giving BJs, and squashing his cock between my boobs - often at the same time. It looks filthy! I'm not mad on him going down on me, but he's an expert at the fanjo banjo Grin

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