So, my dp has always had some 'strange' ways and I've often wondered what other people would think. I will list them and would like people's opinions on whether he is abusive or just weird.
He feels the need to constantly 'torment' our youngest ds, knowing it makes him cry. Then he will moan that he's crying, saying he's only 'playing'.
He makes snide remarks about me all the time. This is hard to explain but e.g. if he can't find something he will always say "I bet you moved it". He often makes comments and remarks about me in front of my mother a lot too. He then claims he is 'joking'. He doesn't do this in front of his own family though.
He snores really loud every night and it makes my life hell. Yet, last night I was coughing a lot in the living room and I could hear him moaning about it from the bedroom. He then made a huge thing of my coughing this morning.
If I go to the cinema with a friend (very rarely), he will moan and say "god, you're always at the cinema".
He will say one thing, then completely deny saying it, causing a huge argument. He will constantly criticise my driving but does it in a sarcastic way.
If he knows something annoys me, he does it even more (often smirking). e.g. he makes his own side of the bed instead of the whole bed!!
He says really offensive things (only in front of me) e.g about women drivers or about immigrants. He never does it in front of anyone else. He says he believes in the UKIP policies and goes on about this (even though he knows I hate that) but I actually think he only says it to annoy me. Again, never said in front of others.
I'm sure there are lots of other things. Now I'm reading this back, I think I know what the replies will be.