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Just found a receipt

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Workitbabe · 19/03/2017 12:31

Just found a receipt in the house for a full body massage. It has got to be dp's as it was next to a pile of his other stuff and general receipts that we have been keeping having just bought the house and are making lots of purchases.
I don't know why but I feel sick.
Why would he not mention he was going for a massage?
Also his sons 17 year old girlfriend is a trained therapist and works at a salon and I am wondering if she did it. I may sound prudish but I think that would be odd being massaged by your sons gf. Sadly there is no company name on the receipt. It was also only £15. Very cheap.

I am going to have to ask him about it. I just feel really uneasy.

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RiverdaleJughead · 19/03/2017 12:36

Dude ....its a massage. If it was £15 then it doesn't feel like a big expensive deal hence why he didn't tell you and if he did get discounted rates from his sons GF ... its his sons girlfriend ...you're being prudish and overdramatic I think. Maybe another reason he didnt tell you - do you always get this stressed out over his actions? maybe he has knot in his back and needed it working out ?

Starlighter · 19/03/2017 12:36

Definitely ask him. It might be perfectly innocent. A lot of men treat themselves to massages these days, with nothing dodgy involved.

whattodowiththepoo · 19/03/2017 12:37

Why do you feel uneasy?

BakerBear · 19/03/2017 12:40

A massage is a very intimate thing and there is no way a possible future DIL should be massaging her FIL. He knew it was wrong and thats why he never told you.

NotTheFordType · 19/03/2017 12:46

Well it's certainly not a sex worker appointment disguised as massage as a) we don't give receipts and b) we don't work that cheap.

£15 seems ridiculously low even for a non-sexual massage.

Is it on any kind of headed paper?

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Workitbabe · 19/03/2017 12:46

That's the thing. It is an intimate thing. A neck and back massage is one thing but a full body massage. I probably am being over sensitive but to me, if it was from her, then I don't think it's appropriate.

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PurpleDaisies · 19/03/2017 12:48

If it was really dodgy he wouldn't have been given a receipt and surely he wouldn't have kept it?

ShatnersBassoon · 19/03/2017 12:53

If it was even remotely dodgy, there would be no paper trail.

Is it more likely that this receipt made its way into your house via the son's girlfriend? Your DH just put it with the other receipts because he didn't know what it was.

ChocolatePuma · 19/03/2017 12:57

It's only intimate if you both think it is. We sexualise these things. Massages are supposed to ease tension from aching muscles.

Ask him, by all means. Just don't go about that conversation like you have here.

WellErrr · 19/03/2017 12:59

I don't think prostitutes give receipts.

Ask him?

iklboo · 19/03/2017 13:01

My physio gave me a full body massage last week (damn sight more than £15 though) as injuries in some parts of my body are giving related pain in others. I think you need to ask him about it. It doesn't look like he was hiding it if it was in the usual place for receipts?

Miserylovescompany2 · 19/03/2017 13:04

I don't think a massage for 15 quid would come with a 'happy ending' just ask him or you'll continue to let your mind run a mock...

hoddtastic · 19/03/2017 13:05

totally weird asking your kids girlfriend to give you a massage. Regardless of how professional it is. Imagine being her? shudders

BlueBlueSkies · 19/03/2017 13:05

I often book a massage for Dh if he has been feeling stressed or tense from sport. $15 is very cheap though, round here it is about $60.

Notihng dodgy about a massage. My sister was training to be a sports therapist and she used to practice massages on my then DH. Nothing sensual or intimate.

Not dollars but my USA bought laptop does not have a pound sign.

Tartyflette · 19/03/2017 13:06

Whatever it was for, it was extremely cheap.
In a halfway decent salon or spa IME you would pay upwards of £25 just for a back/shoulder massage (lasting 25/30 mins) and probably upwards of £40 for a full body massage which would be at least 40-45 minutes.

daisychain01 · 19/03/2017 13:07

Why would he even keep the receipt though? Wouldn't he want to destroy all evidence.

Did it say if cash was received?

pringlecat · 19/03/2017 13:07

I have full body massages all the time. They're not in the least bit sexual.

You would need at least an hour and £15 would ordinarily not get you that. Groupon-type deal? Mates rates? Possibly it was the DIL, but I don't think it's an issue assuming she is indeed a professional.

You do realise that there would have been a towel strategically placed and even if the DIL had been massaging your DH, she wouldn't have seen anything inappropriate?

ShatnersBassoon · 19/03/2017 13:07

There is probably no link between the husband and son's girlfriend. The receipt is either hers from work or his from elsewhere. It's very unlikely it's his from her.

Aridane · 19/03/2017 13:08

At work we pay £15 for neck and shoulder massage - no full body though!

BlueFolly · 19/03/2017 13:10

What in earth makes you think it was from her? That seems like an odd conclusion to jump to.

If you're in the U.K. I can't think that a proper salon would ever only charge £15 so maybe it was a trainee at a college?

Tartyflette · 19/03/2017 13:11

I am female and whenever I've had a full body massage the therapists doing it are extremely sensitive and careful, with towels etc, to keep you covered except for the bit they are working on.
And they never touch buttocks, breasts, stomach or genitals, obviously.
So although it is intimate, it's not that intimate IFSWIM.

You're going to have to ask him.

PolkadotPony · 19/03/2017 13:12

I'm a beauty therapist. We don't look a massage as 'intimate', it's just skin to us, we care if we are doing the sequence right and maintaining correct and comfortable pressure for the client.

Could he have got a special offer, used a beauty school, or DIL did it (which I don't find weird at all).

I don't think you've anything to worry about. My bf gets a massage sometimes, not from me.

DickToPhone · 19/03/2017 13:15

£15 sounds about right for a massage from a trainee, possibly the 17-year-old.

Not really weird?

BewtySkoolDropowt · 19/03/2017 13:16

It's a massage. It's not sex. It's not being unfaithful. And there is no way that it is services disguised as massage if it a)is £15 and b) comes with a receipt.

It is seriously cheap, so it must be a deal of some sort, Groupon or maybe a trainee therapist.

If he was trying to hide it then he would not have left the receipt there.

Also - it could have been your son or his girfriend having a massage - maybe the receipt fell out of a pocket and someone picked it up and put it beside similar looking paperwork.

Massage is great for so many issues. More people should be getting massage imo. I don't think there is anything to worry about.

Emphasise · 19/03/2017 13:20

If there's an itemised receipt surely it says who it's from so youd know whether it was dil?

I don't know. On the one hand I don't expect dh to tell me about every £15 he spends. OTOH getting a massage is something that would be mentioned over dinner, just because it's likely to be the most interesting thing that happened that day!

Does he have a lot of pampering treatments? If dh went for a massage it would be a very big deal, I can't imagine it ever happening and would expect it to be mention because it was out of the ordinary. Perhaps not so odd not to mention it if (eg) he was in for his regular manicure and there was a special offer for massage or some similar circumstances

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