What do you all think? Any experiences?
I'm 2 years free of an abusive marriage (which probably affects my judgment), and I have two young children. I'm 45 years old and look fully my age.
Just recently, I had a great 2 month relationship with a very kind and lovely man 15 years older than me. The age gap didn't bother me. Sometimes it struck me that he looked a bit old, grey and wrinkly, but I honestly didn't care - I loved him enough to get over it. The relationship ended, but such is life.
Now a man (let's call him John) who is only 36 is hoping to build a life with me and my children. He is an amazing single dad, in very hard circumstances, very good looking, very clever, capable and kind. I know his children, and I love them both. He wants a mother for them, he is completely honest about this. His children come first with him, he doesn't care how old I am or what I look like. He only wants somebody who will love his children as if they were her own (and I would do that! )
I like John, and I think I could love him a lot. The difficult thing is, I think he is selling himself short by wanting to be with me. In ten years time, he will still be gorgeous, but I will be an old woman.
Is this a good idea?
In ten years time, I will be 54 years old, completely grey, very wrinkly (I have smoked for years), with reduced libido and breasts maybe around my ankles. He will be 46, only gorgeous pepper and salt grey, still looking lovely and