I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the right place but here goes.
We have 2 young children, married for 10 years, family complete and don't want any more. Using condoms since the kids. We don't have a lot of sex, which is my issue not dh's. We have all the issues of tiredness, young kids and busy lives etc but I also realised something recently. A few weeks ago I had a lot of breaat tenderness and started to panic about being pregnant. Completely ridiculous as we hadn't had sex since my period!! What this showed me is that becoming pregnant is playing on my mind a lot. I mentioned to dh that I would go to the docs to talk about the coil or similar and asked him if he would consider a vasectomy. He just said no, we don't have enough sex for him to consider an unnecessary and painful op. Now I get that totally and I wouldn't want to do it either but I feel he was missing the point a bit. I feel a bit sick at the moment of all of this kids and contraception stuff always being about my health and risks to me. E.g., being on the pill for 10 years previous, remembering to take it and also the health risks. Being pregnant and childbirth, breastfeeding etc etc etc. I'm just tired of all of this stuff coming down to my body and not his. I suspect I'm being unreasonable though as a vasectomy is an unnecessary op but I don't know what the answer for us is. I also don't fancy having the coil inserted although I'm sure it's probably fine, lots of women have it, but I do think I would still worry and want to use condoms as well. Can anyone offer me any advice? I don't want to be someone who pushes their partner into an op but I just don't feel like having anything chemical or foreign bodies in me, I've had enough of it. Aibu??!