I don't like my son's teeth.

[Sea1402]

Hi, I don't want to be completely flamed, so didn't know where to put this. Thought relationships might be the best place.

My son is lovely, he really is and I wouldn't change him, as it wouldn't be him. However, I do admit that I don't like his teeth. Is it odd to find physical things about your children that you don't like? I feel really bad and know I'm in the minority, but I wonder if anyone else out there has ever felt the same.

What don't you like about them???

Ok, this was obviously a bad idea. I honestly just thought someone might know what I meant. Never mind. Sorry

Do you mean he has a feature that isn't attractive and you are worried this may impact on him later in life?

I do know what you mean. "Luckily" my children have pretty regular features. They aren't supermodels but ordinary sort of nice looking children. However if I had a child with something fixable like sticky out ears I'd fix them. Teeth wise, is it that he needs braces?

Maybe expand a little

Why don't you like them?

He has white marks on his teeth. Dentist says these are normal in a lot of people. Yes, he probably needs braces too. I don't know, I suppose I feel bad for noticing something that isn't perfect about him.

Why don't you like them?

What dont you like about them?

Oh, that's really normal, honestly, I know loads of people who have that. It's fixable as well once all his adult teeth are through.

I think the important thing is to look past the physical. It sounds like a tiny little thing anyway but most children and adolescents will go through a stage of not being gorgeous, they need to know that to you, they are!

Surely you can love your children and still notice they aren't perfect.

It would be very strange otherwise.

I think it's perfectly natural to feel like that about a child's physical feature but not many people would talk openly about it.

I would have thought that you could get treatment for your child's teeth in time eg braces? if they are likely to get teased about them. As for what you can do about your feelings in the meantime im not sure.

How old is he?

Dentist says white marks can't be fixed, but when he is an adult, there is treatment that could cover it (layer of something on teeth) and obviously braces, etc. he is 9.

Let's hope he never stumbles across this thread. Make sure he never accidentally find out you've posted this.

You don't have to like them. Hth.

Wait until he is a teen.
He will still have the white marks on his teeth.
You probably won't be noticing them anymore, as you will be posting on here about not liking your sons attitude grin which will override any teeth problems I can assure you (plus he will have had braces by then, so will look lovely to you)

Your dentist is spot on.
Your boy can have a cosmetic treatment when he's "dentally mature" at around 18 ish. Possibly microabrasion, composites depending on the reason for the white spots. Obviously braces much earlier than that to align them.
It's not unusual at all; those TOWIE type celebrities have skewed people's perceptions of what normal healthy teeth are

Until comparatively recently the only dental remedy for discoloured teeth was to have them replaced with crowns, but veneers have superceded this somewhat drastic treatment.

By the time your ds becomes an adult I would expect there to be more advances in cosmetic dentisty and it may be that something along the lines of present day tooth whitening will give your ds's teeth a uniform colour.

Start saving now and give him the gift of all white teeth for his 18th.

DD1 has a brown tooth. Dentist explained it happened when she was growing in me, nothing anyone could do. Fortunately it is a bottom tooth so not as obvious.

Oh don't worry. When getting orthodontistry in my teens my father said 'I don't want crooked teeth being the reason you don't get a job'. Fair enough, he & my Mother paid handsomely for it but I have lovely, straight teeth since! (and a job!)

I don't like DD ears. They stick out quite badly. She makes it worse by pushing her hair behind them. When I take a photo I make her remove her hair from behind her ears. I know, it's bad.

I myself have an ear complex and wish I had had mine pinned back as a child. I hope I will be able to let it be her decision and not mind.

I do know what you mean OP.

9 is an age when childrens teeth can look awful when they are growing at all angles. My dd has a double set (!) and it is quite freaky but apparently quite normal according to the dentist. My eldest now a teenager has grown into her teeth and they look fine now but were quite unsightly for a few years.

Honest it's no big deal at all. My daughter has cry discoured teeth due to medicine from birth. Without the meds she would have died. However at no 13 she hates he teeth and is very self conciois . We are sending her private for whitening. She is amazing for all dh has over came so no way do I want her feeling self conciois x