What percentage of women are unhappy in their current relationship/marriage?

[noego]

Talking to a school mum today and she reckons that 80% of women at the school collecting their kids are unhappy. Don't know if I actually believe it is that high. She also reckons that in 2nd marriages/LTR's its higher than that. Anybody got any actual facts?

[growapear]

Dunno where those stats come from, but many of my friends (man) are unhappily married as well and stay for the kids.

[pinkyredrose]

mama your post makes me very sad. You're modelling a negative relationship model to your son. Fwiw I have a good friend who's parents views were similar to yours. She wished for years her parents would divorce, she knew they were only together for her. She felt responsible for their unhappiness.

[threelittlerapscallions]

I am lucky enough to be happily married. I have one friend I think is not happy (though nothing said) and all others are either separated or happily married. Maybe people don't confide their true feelings though and there are more unhappy than that. Sad if the 80% is true.

[threelittlerapscallions]

My parents were not particularly happy though and stayed married for my sake.

[Mamatallica]

My dad stuck it out for the sake of us kids and I've always appreciated him for it. Children deserve parents who put them first not run off to follow their own selfish desires. Except in cases of abuse, marriage is for life.

[MrsP103]

I think men are more likely to be happy if they buy into the family life that comes along after they get married and accept the new relationship they have as a result. I think the ones who don't are much more likely to be unhappy as I personally think a lot of women do change once kids come along.

The carefree young vibrant woman they met is often a distant memory after 2 kids, years of sleepless nights and the daily grind of running the house and managing the kids.

Those men who accept this and get stuck in with the kids etc will be happier in my opinion.

A lot of unhappy women will stay in relationships regardless for the sake of the kids and to keep this ideal of "not splitting the family up"

A good number of my friends would say they were not totally happy with their partner.

[Myusernameismyusername]

I've been happier single to be honest. It's much easier

[YetAnotherGuy]

My own experience of Married Couples - where I can be 80+% confident I'm right

Happy
DW/me, My parents, 2 x DDs, Brother, DW's Brother, 2 x Nieces, 3 x Nearest Neighbours, 3 x Close Colleagues, 6 x Close Friends

Not happy
PIL, DW's Sister, 1 x Close Colleague

I make that 85% Happy. And that increases if I keep extending the circle of friends

[Thatwaslulu]

I think this is really sad. I am happily married to my best friend, and most of my circle of married friends seem really happy, but it is interesting what you say about second marriages being unhappy. I am a second wife myself, although it is my own first marriage. Got me wondering...

[MrsP103]

Seem and are can be totally different. Lots of people put on a front.

[hareOrRabbit]

think this is really sad. I am happily married to my best friend

you just think you are happy. he's probably having an affair or if he isn't yet will be in future.

have a look on this site for the MILLIONS of posts that start 'I thought we were so happy and knew he was the kind of man who'd never cheat on me. I never suspected. he's my best friend but tonight I discovered.....'

everyone always thinks it will never be them/their husband.

[Thatwaslulu]

hare nah he's too lazy to have an affair. And too old. But thanks, that's such a lovely viewpoint to have.

[aurynne]

Married, no children, I couldn't be happier.

The majority of my married friends and family seem pretty happy, but as others have said, you never know what happens behind closed doors.

[thiswashelpful]

Reading through the posts...and then thinking about extended family, friends, co-workers, etc. that I think I'd know reasonably well. ...That 80% number seems very high based on my totally subjective count.

Of course, I can never really know what is going on in other peoples lives, but I would have thought about 50% unhappy? Which is very bad when you think about it too!