I can't offer you a relationship

[chasegirl]

After 4 dates he states this. Would have been more useful at date 1. Tosser. That is all

Perhaps he didn't know at that point?

Or am I missing the point ?

Did he offer his penis as a consolation prize?

Yep Penistone offering was made

Perhaps he didn't know this initially?

At least he was upfront about it, damned if you do damned if you don't.

Tell him to do one

I kind of think he knew from the start but said the right things to move things along in his direction

chasegirl
Because he's a man right?

If it was a woman you wouldn't assume that would you?

Predictable. Onwards and upwards (you, not his penis)

Very presumptuous of him

Does he mean he is with someone else?!

Wave goodbye to him and his penis and move on. Tosser.

Sherlock no idea. I guess women do this too. I haven't.
I kind of think he wasn't interested in a relationship from the start

Why is he a tosser? Because after 4 dates he doesn't want to see you anymore? That says more about you than it does him.......

Hate that kind of presumptuous arrogance. You are well rid!

No. It's not that he doesn't want to see me again just only on an occasional friends with benefits basis

No. It's not that he doesn't want to see me again just only on an occasional friends with benefits basis. Oh. I don't see how anyone was meant to get that from the OP.

Well if that what he wants then it's fair enough, I used to have one of those and it was actually very nice the important thing is that is clearly not for you. Moving on (next ....ring bell) you will find someone better xxx

Meadows that's exactly what I got from the OP. It's taken him until date 4 to tell her he isn't looking for a relationship. Perfectly clear, he is a tosser.

Did you like him enough to think it could be more? Better he has told you now. I guess the tosser remark is because it's still hurtful and not necessarily a reflection on you

CharlieSierra

You must be a mind reader because there was close to no context to suggest that.

Meadows that's exactly what I got from the OP. It's taken him until date 4 to tell her he isn't looking for a relationship. Perfectly clear, he is a tosser. oh, I just read that they went out 4 times and he doesn't want to continue.

Unrequited- yes that's it. Sorry if my op wasn't clear was just having a quick vent. If he had been clear from the start I wouldn't feel m8slwad

Or even mislead

Cut loose and move on.

I will expat. No major drama really but just think FFS!!