DH annoyed me but I may have blown it out of proportion

[SheenaPunkRocker]

We were sat flicking through the music channels earlier and that "Lazy Town" song came on. I said "oh, (friends little girl) loves this song..."

DH said "How old is she?"

I said "7"

so he said, "no the girl on tv..." so I said I had no idea and he started going on about her appearance and said "well judging by how developed etc she is I'd say no older than 10.." I wasnt expecting that and it did annoy me a bit but I left it.

Anyway I was speaking to my friend and me got talking about lazy town and out of curiosity I asked how old the girl was and my friend said she was 15.

I then told DH "by the way, that girl is 15".

He then turned around and said "you're joking?? that's the most underdeveloped 15 year old I've ever seen then..." So I got annoyed and said more or less "is that all you think about" and called him a pervert, he hit the roof and said he didnt mean it like that and I was out of order.

So was I out of order? How would you have reacted to these types of comments?

I am mean btw
and suspicious

knuckle wax.............hairy handed trucker.

Trucker = Yorkie bars... or am I just showing my age ???

well, you are older than me

no you div

"Hope you make assembly in the morning.

Sleep well little one."

that post

Just being a Mummy

PMSL
you nutter

the convo over this thread is welll over my head TBH.
back to Sheena
It is hard for a newbie to begin a thread, especially where you want some others opinions (where beter to ask) and i think in this instance you have done so because you needed to, not because you wanted to. Bit uneasy about things by sounds of it.
Hard to question others about your DH habits when you suspect he is being a tw-t. But i think he is.

He sounds like a normal man. I would kiss and make up.

Hi xenia how was your skiing trip?

Fuck me Xenia, no wonder you're divorced

Relaxing, very good snow, 9 hours sleep a night. Lovely.
On the sex I thought men think about it every 10 minutes or something. I don't think there's anything wrong. He just referred to someone's chest, an off the cuff remark.

Obviously a "breast man".

Think it's natural to get annoyed at him. He probably does this kind of thing all the time so this was just the final straw for you and that's why you erupted.

Maybe when you've both calmed down, you can make it clear to him that you find comments about other women's (and girls') breasts or lack of offensive, so perhaps he'll just keep them to himself in future if you're lucky.

my DF fancies stephanie, i dont think hes a perv

To OP if genuine I agree it is a bit odd to muse about a girl in a kids progs' breasts or lack of.

Kittylete - If my DP came out with that I would def think he was a perv, you are surely kidding?

I think unless he had his hands down his trousers when he said it, i can't see what the fuss is about. A total over reaction to call him names i think.

By the way, I think "Stephanies" boobs are strapped down in manner of Judy Garland in Wizard of Oz.

Sheena do you have other concerns re your DH's "pervertedness" and this is why you are bothered about this? (I don't think he sounds like a pervert in this (Lazytown related!) respect. I think you have to be careful, bandying about an accusation like that, implying he is interested in children in that way. I imagine my DH would be very upset and rightly so.)

And the term is paedophile not pervert. Are you really suggesting he has those tendancies?

no, i am serious

shes a young pretty girl, shes 15, not 5 FFS

if it was a LITTLE girl id be horrified but shes not

i'd always assumed she was about thirteen. Even so, I wouldn't be happy about my DP fancying girls of fifteen, but hey each to their own [sceptical]

or even

kittylette, that is rather shocking I'm afraid - grown men shouldn't be lusting over underage girls.

She might BE 15, but she doesn't LOOK 15, she looks about 11 or 12, and I would be a liitle concerned. I would think that was perverted.

Yes I don't think I have ever seen her out of Lazy Town either! Fifteen is a girl, not a woman. So so wrong.

OK, let's get a grip here. Stephanie aside for a moment, I don't really think it would be feasible to consider all men that have ever glanced at a teenage girl, particularly one who is younger than she looks, to be dangerous perverts with "problems", much less with paedophilia tendencies..

I don't feel that this is at all the same as actively looking up pictures of, or going out of their way to look at, pictures of teenage girls.

However, Stephanie is portrayed and dressed as someone younger that fifteen (if that IS her age) so it wouldn't sit well with me if any bloke I knew was lusting after her!

my sisters 15, her boyfriend is 20

HE is not a peado or a pervert!

my DF is 21 and he thinks stephanie is a nice looking girl - so what?

hes NOT a perv, hes just male

i dont think she looks 12 she looks her age, - she looks younger in lazytown cause shes wearing a pink wig and has got her tits taped down

in real life she actully looks older than her age, and she is nice looking

i dont get this thing - shes 15 so anyone who fancies her is a perv, shes like 3 months off 16 so as soon as its her birthday its suddenty OK for men to look at her??

im taking this personally as its my DF here, and i know him, ive spent 1/3 of my life with him and i know him inside out and theres NO WAY he is a pervert! he fanices a nice looking young girl, hes only 21 himself ffs! hes not a 65 year old

Its built into a male brain to find young girls attractive, its inbred in them - in order to get the best results from mating,

im not having a go by the way - just telling you how it is