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New nephew

31 replies

Flossy1971 · 29/04/2016 09:07

My new nephew was born last week and I'm off to see him this weekend. I say 'I'm' off to see him as my husband isn't coming. He'd rather go to see rugby 7s and wants a weekend doing nothing (despite the fact he does nothing in the evenings all week!) I have to say, I am a little put out by this as to me it just smacks of a lack of support. Admittedly we only saw my family a couple of weeks ago and they are 2 hours away and we have a 3 hour journey home this evening but surely he should be coming to show his support or am I just being grouchy?!

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KinkyAfro · 29/04/2016 09:09

Support for what?

Costacoffeeplease · 29/04/2016 09:11

I vote grouchy

NeedACleverNN · 29/04/2016 09:13

Not everyone likes babies apart from their own

If he doesn't want to come then he doesn't have too.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 29/04/2016 09:14

Perhaps he just isn't interested in babies? I'm not so I wouldn't be fussed about 'meeting' a new nephew.

What sort of support are you looking for?

IrenetheQuaint · 29/04/2016 09:15

It's a long journey there and back when he's visited only recently. And lots of people including me find new babies quite dull.

NotAClue82 · 29/04/2016 09:18

Ahhh that would upset me to! A new nephew is an exciting occasion. Even if you find babies dull I think in a relationship it's nice to show an interest in each others lives and families.

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Flossy1971 · 29/04/2016 09:38

ah okay, so I'm just being grouch! :-/

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AliceInHinterland · 29/04/2016 09:41

I think he should make the effort, lazy bugger. He should at least feign interest in the key events in your family life!

RaeSkywalker · 29/04/2016 09:44

Depends- I would be a bit annoyed at DH, but that's because I spend loads of time with his goddaughters, so I'd be hurt if he wasn't interested in a new nephew on my side (I'd be referring to the baby as 'our nephew' though).

ElspethFlashman · 29/04/2016 09:44

Support??? It's a baby! He'd say "yes, very cute" & then sit there for hours bored out of his mind.

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Flossy1971 · 29/04/2016 11:18

Admittedly it's a baby and he'd be bored out of his mind, but they are at home and therre's 2 other kids and it's not like we see much of them (like a few times a year!) whereas his family are local so we see them practically every other weekend and they were going to prepare lunch for us, etc. I guess I feel like I get very little engagement and support in the relationship in general which is why I'm a bit peeved about this.

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Flossy1971 · 29/04/2016 11:20

RaeSkywalker - I agree re referring to the baby as 'our nephew' except this morning when he said he wasn't coming and I reminded him it was his nephew to he pointed out not really, only by marriage!

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RaeSkywalker · 29/04/2016 11:23

Yes, I think that as you put a lot of time and effort into seeing his family, then I would also be annoyed by this situation.

1DAD2KIDS · 29/04/2016 16:28

I think the rugby sounds a better option. I would love a weekend to relax and watch rugby.

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Flossy1971 · 29/04/2016 16:53

lol he gets to lounge around and do as he pleases most weekends, I'm not the most demanding of wives!

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Floralnomad · 29/04/2016 16:57

I'd rather go to rugby than see a new baby .

ChubbyPolecat · 29/04/2016 17:00

I hate rugby and I'd rather do that than go see a new baby. Why do you need support?

RiverTam · 29/04/2016 17:02

What support is he meant to be showing? I mean, who is he meant to be supporting? You? Your sister? And if you find want yo see his family as much as you do you don't have to.

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Flossy1971 · 29/04/2016 17:02

not support as such, but given it's his nephew as well as mine and I don't see much of my family as we live miles from them yet see plenty of his as they are local, well in my mind you'd accompany your wife, it's what you do surely?! If his sister had another baby I can't imagine for a minute saying I was off to see ,y friends while he went to see his family!

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Costacoffeeplease · 29/04/2016 18:11

I don't see my husband's nieces/nephews as mine too

achillesratty · 29/04/2016 18:27

Another vote for watching rugby. I have less than zero in interest in other people's children, if I was in the same room I would probly feign a "oh, he/she is cute" but if he isn't interested, go on your own and enjoy yourself.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 29/04/2016 18:40

I would rather watch the rugby too.

And it really isn't his nephew. If you split up, would he still see your nephew and your family? They're your relations, not his.

Smartiepants79 · 29/04/2016 18:55

Although I wouldn't mind that much going on my own in this kind of situation I have to say I would see it as his nephew too.
My aunts and uncles are all indistinguishable from who is blood relations and who is not. In fact my closest uncle is not a blood relation.
I know my DH will consider my sisters children his nephew/niece. When you are married/comitted to each other family is family.

MTPurse · 29/04/2016 18:59

Did you agree to this trip before speaking to your dh?

Joysmum · 29/04/2016 19:16

DH and I both have little to do with each other's families. It's no great shakes. I'd struggle as much as he would with pretend closeness that doesn't exist Confused