New nephew

[Flossy1971]

My new nephew was born last week and I'm off to see him this weekend. I say 'I'm' off to see him as my husband isn't coming. He'd rather go to see rugby 7s and wants a weekend doing nothing (despite the fact he does nothing in the evenings all week!) I have to say, I am a little put out by this as to me it just smacks of a lack of support. Admittedly we only saw my family a couple of weeks ago and they are 2 hours away and we have a 3 hour journey home this evening but surely he should be coming to show his support or am I just being grouchy?!

I guess I feel like I get very little engagement and support in the relationship in general which is why I'm a bit peeved about this.

It sounds like the nephew issue is a bit of a straw the broke the camel's back moment, perhaps? (I wouldn't expect a partner who was uninterested in babies to accompany me.)

What other ways in the marriage would you like him to support you, that you currently don't get? Do you have DC together?

Do people seriously think your nephews/nieces aren't yours if they're not your blood relative? Huh. That had never occurred to me.

Yes Mypockets I have nephews and nieces.

Dh has a nephew and a niece-they aren't mine, they're his.

He should go with you.

I see my BIL/SIL's children as my nieces, just as much as I see my sister's child as my nephew. I love all three children dearly and treat them in the same manner. I am auntie to them all, dh is uncle to them all and dd is a much loved cousin to them all. DH feels the same.

I'd be upset to think they I wasn't considered a proper auntie to my nieces!

Dh admittedly prefers children when they are a bit older and interact a lot more. However, when his brother's children arrived we both went to see them, and to see his brother and SIL as soon as was convenient.

When my sister's baby was born me and DD went down within a day or two, as we were both on school holidays and able to travel a couple of hours easily and quickly , stay locally to them and enjoy time with them. However, pretty soon after - within the month - dh had also been with us to meet his new nephew.

But we do a lot of family stuff together, and we treat each other's family as our own, even more so where the children are involved.

If you split up, would he still see your nephew and your family? They're your relations, not his.

I would hope I would still see/be in contact with my nieces in such a situation. I have known them all their lives, I have cared for them, taken them out/away, treated them, had them to stay - sometimes when DH hasn't been there as he has been with his brother for the day/night.

I know many people in similar situations who do see their nieces and nephews on the other side, after a split. I don;t think it is that uncommon - certainly doesn't seem to be anyway.

I find it far more unusual to not consider your brother/sister in law's children are your nieces and nephews.