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[Weymouthmouth]

So about 20 years ago when I was 16/17 I had a boyfriend for about a year, went our separate ways (I ended it, he was gutted) quite soon after he then met someone else got married and had kids.

Over the years seen him & wife around handful of times, and we are polite etc.

On Saturday I got a Facebook message from him, saying "hi how's you" was busy didn't respond and didn't think much of it, the next day my sister (who works with his dad) told me that they had recently split up (like very recent 2 weeks max) his wife choice she just said she didn't want to be with him etc.

So i thought ok that explains the message considering we are not Facebook friends etc and was a little like for god sake what is it with men, suddenly he wants contact!

So I still didn't answer then today I get this message from him " prob should of mentioned in my message him single now"

No I have no Intrest in him, don't want to meet him etc but also don't want to be rude, what can I reply kind of ending the convo?

I was thinking something along the lines of "sorry to hear that, take care of yourself"

Oh and he will 100% know I'm also single

How about "I see in the last 20 years you haven't learned the different between "of" and "have". May I suggest an adult literacy course to while away those lonely single hours?"

I am an awful cow though

I would probably assume that he mentioned it in case you thought he was a scumbag trying to cheat on his wife!

I think your response is fine.

It doesn't have to be a big deal.

Just annoys me how exes seem to come out the woodwork when they find themselves suddenly single, it's not the first time this has happened to me, it's like they think oh let go back there for something to do so I'm not alone

I wouldn't reply at all.

Is it possible he's been thinking about you all these years, grasping at straws, old romantic fool that I am.

Possibly Vulcan, he didn't take the break up well

That's why I want to reply in the right way, don't want to be rude but don't want to strike up a convo

Was he no good then.

Id probably reply 'what a shame for you. Please don't pursue whatever designs you have here though, as I am not interested.'

Just don't reply and if he asks when you see him next say you never got it, perhaps it went in the junk box.

I don't agree with not replying, that's just rude and crappy.

Yes I thought it would be rude not to reply, but just want a short reply that doesn't spark a convo or give any wrong ideas

Don't reply and block him.

"Hiya, Sorru i haven't replied sooner i just couldn't for the life of me remember who you are, sorry, now i've remembered. fuck off. TaTa"

One word answer...

"And????"

"Sorry to hear that. I wish you the best for the future."

THEN block and ignore.

I had a similar situation recently. No contact in 10 years, FB message out of the blue. I ignored it. I really wouldn't bother to engage...

Difficult one really, because really your reply says "thanks but not interested" which could be as upsetting to him as not replying. I don't think I'd bother. You've already had the I'm not interested conversation even if it was 20 years ago.

I've replied to guys before purely to be polite and found just that was enough to give them hope, so I don't think it is rude to not reply.

Just don't reply. Who cares about being rude to someone you haven't seen for 20 years? I can guarantee whatever you reply he'll take it as an 'in'. He has no way of ever knowing if you even got his messages.

Er BLOCK.

he fancies a shag