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can I call the police....

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 19:08

if my partner locks me in the house to stop me from leaving or he won't let me leave the house with our son cause he can't look after him?

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RaptorsCantPlayPoker · 27/02/2016 19:10

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RidersOnTheStorm · 27/02/2016 19:10

Yes. Do it now.

Lolimax · 27/02/2016 19:13

Please do it. Do you need company on here or some virtual handholding?

EDisFunny · 27/02/2016 19:13

Yes, you can. I wish I had called the police on my now ex-husband when he physically stopped me from leaving the house. I was pregnant and he bruised me and ripped my shirt. It's criminal behaviour.

RaptorsCantPlayPoker · 27/02/2016 19:14

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 19:50

he keeps saying this is our sons home but wants me out the house. I told him I'll leave if I take my son and he went you'll have to get through me first and I will throw you out without our son.

he can't even hold our son for 5 minutes with out him crying and him giving him me back to me.

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 19:52

I'm just an emotional wreck. I can't stop crying. the HV and my doctor think I maybe going through pnd as I only gave birth 6 weeks ago but I keep trying to convince them I'm fine cause my partner thinks it's a load of rubbish.

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sarahlou75 · 27/02/2016 19:52

If he isn't there ring the police right now!
Also women's aid

petalsandstars · 27/02/2016 19:53

Yes call police - no question

QuiteLikely5 · 27/02/2016 19:54

Op did you post recently?

You aren't rubbish, don't leave the baby with him

Yes you certainly can call the police

Even if this situation calms down you are in an abusive relationship

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 19:54

he's here doing house work cause I'm too lazy to do it. I'm on maternity leave so I should not only look after our son but also clean the house. and I can't moan I'm tired during the day as it's my fault I don't sleep when my son does.

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Marchate · 27/02/2016 19:54

Phone the police. Talk to Women'S Aid when you can. But phone the police immediately

Take care x

sarahlou75 · 27/02/2016 19:54

OMG you are being held hostage in your own home. Of course you are crying all the time. The first weeks are the horses and you're dealing with some serious problems with your partner.
Have you got RL friends/family?

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 19:55

no I'm a first time poster on here for my own problem.

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petalsandstars · 27/02/2016 19:55

Get rid of the abusive man and any thoughts of pnd will likely disappear too. Tell GP and HV about the whole situation too.

sarahlou75 · 27/02/2016 19:55

Hardest not horses

Marchate · 27/02/2016 19:55

Oh, none of this is your fault. Don't believe his atrocious lies

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 19:56

if I tell my family all hell will break loose and not no close friends. I love him to bits though

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 27/02/2016 19:56

Well you could have pnd and be in an abusive relationship, both at the same time. I'm willing to bet any pnd would improve 100% if you didn't have to put up with your partner being an abusive dick at the same time though.

Please talk to your HV or Gp and tell them everything that's going on. Pregnancy/birth are common times when abuse escalates - you won't be the first and they will know how to help you

numberseventeen · 27/02/2016 20:00

Please please please don't take another day of this. You have a little baby who needs you to be well and you do not deserve to be treated the way you are.

I stayed for far far too long in a relationship like this and please believe me when I say me and my son are a million times happier than we ever were under his roof.
I won't deny that leaving was hard, emotionally and physically but it's without doubt the best thing I've ever ever done.

Look after you and your baby and ring women's aid as soon as you can. Stay safe for now and be as strong as you can be x

sarahlou75 · 27/02/2016 20:04

Why will all hell break loose if you tell your family?
This is only the start, he is controlling you. You will have to account for every minute of your day (if he lets you out of the house). He will cut you off from every support in RL that you have.
Call the police. Get out. Have a life.

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 20:16

I'm not sticking up for him but luckily he let's me out the house. he's being fine with me now but unfortunately during our row I got that angry and punched the wall which he

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 20:20

then called me a psycho and I'm a bad mother. he'll call the police on me and get me put into a mental health hospital and he'll have full custody of our son.

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Marchate · 27/02/2016 20:24

When he says that, you are going to be frightened and upset. But I promise you, it's one of the lines abusive men use - they're not as clever & original as they think

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firsttimemummy12345 · 27/02/2016 20:26

I told him he's EA but he went no it's you being ungrateful and always having a face on me and it's all my fault cause I don't sleep during the day and stay up all night

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