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Share bathroom together?

63 replies

MusicMum18 · 14/02/2016 13:20

H,
Some friends of my dh and I were saying that they thought us strange because we share the bathroom...ie my dh might use the toilet when I'm in the bath, or vice versa, or I might clean my teeth whilst dh in the bath etc.

Our friends thought this was strange/a bit rank. They never use the bathroom at the same time and lock the door. To us it's just a place to chat really and catch up! As well as in other areas of the house obviously!

We are happy with this arrangement and didn't think it strange but I am just wondering if any other couples do the same, and in fact they are the weird ones for not sharing the bathroom!

I know it's a personal questions im just curious!

OP posts:
TheNaze73 · 14/02/2016 13:30

I think it's an individual matter. I personally need my own space & privacy & couldn't think of anything worse. Each to their own though

FinallyHere · 14/02/2016 13:33

DH locks the door every time, i find this strange as i wouldn't lock and often even leave the door open. I've tried to joke him out of it, demonstrating that I can unlock it from outside with a screwdriver, so that it's not the lock stopping me barging in. I don't barge in because I know he likes his privacy .....

Then I had to break him of the habit of standing outside and talking to me through the open door when I was, hhmmm, engaged. Just because the door isn't closed and locked doesn't mean you are welcome to chat.

He uses the ensuite, I use the family bathroom. Sigh. Miss having one each when we are away....

PuppyMonkey · 14/02/2016 13:40

We're quite open door in our house- I'll have a wee while DP or DDs are in shower or brushing teeth etc. We do draw the line at poos in front of each other though.

BackforGood · 14/02/2016 13:47

As long as both of you are comfortable with it, then it's not an issue, but personally there is no way in the world I would want to be anywhere near the bathroom when dh is on the toilet. Shock
I wouldn't have a problem with teeth cleaning whilst I was in the bath, particularly, but it is the one place in the world you can get few minute privacy - it's not somewhere I want to invite people into.

MaryEllen1 · 14/02/2016 14:25

We do the same OP!

Manopaws · 14/02/2016 14:34

i don't see the problem with sharing the bathroom but i would draw the line at cleaning my teeth while HP was having a poo.

Costacoffeeplease · 14/02/2016 14:41

Yuk - separate bathrooms all the way

tingon · 14/02/2016 14:47

I use the lock, I wish DH would.

Ragwort · 14/02/2016 14:52

Never - we don't even use the same bathroom, I have the en-suite and he uses the 'family' bathroom - I appreciate we are very fortunate to have a choice.

I wouldn't dream of using the bathroom if my DH was using it and equally he would respect my privacy. Having a peaceful bath on my own before bed is the highlight of my day.

I prefer to 'chat and catch up' over dinner not the toilet. Grin

bloodyteenagers · 14/02/2016 14:53

Cannot think of anything worse than someone having a shit whilst I was in the bath.

willconcern · 14/02/2016 14:55

We share the bathroom like you OP.

BoboChic · 14/02/2016 14:59

Our loos aren't in the bathrooms. I think sharing a bathroom while one person washes and the other is using the loo is beyond revolting.

However, brushing teeth while the other is in the bath doesn't particularly bother me.

Trills · 14/02/2016 15:00

Teeth and bath - OK.

Toilet and anything - not OK.

HTH.

Pipbin · 14/02/2016 15:08

Nope, we don't lock the door but we do shut it. He can get the fuck out of the bathroom while I'm in there and I have no desire to be there while he does whatever it is he does.
My life is not so damn busy that I can't wait the 5 minutes while he brushes his teeth. We do have a downstairs loo which is useful for when he is having one of those shits that chaps seem to have that take 30 minutes and must happen before leaving the house.
I've never understood the need for double sinks in bathrooms.

Artandco · 14/02/2016 15:12

Not for toilet, but we have open door policy for bath/ showers/ teeth/ makeup. Oh and kids are small so pee anytime

pocketsaviour · 14/02/2016 15:26

Teeth/bath/shower - fine.
Peeing - OK if desperate.
Pooing - NEVER

lanbro · 14/02/2016 15:35

We use the bathroom at the same time for everything, although I would never poo in front of dh. He will happily come in and warn me he's about to poo tho, I simply vacate. We do have a downstairs toilet too, the door to which is only shut for a poo!

I guess we're disgusting! I wouldn't tend to my bikini line with dh in the same room though

Original poster
MusicMum18 · 14/02/2016 20:19

Thanks for replies, I'm glad we're not the only ones who share. I have to admit I don't poo in front of dh but usually leave the door unlocked but closed to. The thing is that he sits on the throne to wee and poo so I can never tell which one he's doing until it happens. Sometimes he warns me but sometimes not as a joke!

Some of these replies made me chuckle,toilet humour is so funny xxx

OP posts:
LeaLeander · 14/02/2016 20:24

It is rank.

dontcallmethatyoucunt · 14/02/2016 20:27

Oh blimey we are clearly rank. We only shut the door if a poo is in progress, everything else has an open door policy

PolovesTubbyCustard · 14/02/2016 20:31

No. We keep our bathroom activities separate.

If one of us is having a bath we can go in and chat - after asking if it's okay. But never any toilet activities.

We have two bathrooms so all is well

GnomeDePlume · 14/02/2016 20:32

Each to there own but DH and I never share bathroom space, ever. If one of us accidentally walks in on the other then both of us end up apologising!

chelle792 · 14/02/2016 20:36

My bathroom time for me is mine and mine alone. I'm very particular on that. Especially for teeth brushing. No idea why

Ginkypig · 14/02/2016 20:41

Poos are private. We do talk about them though, as in hel come and say oh that was a bad one but I feel better now. :-)

Everything else we wouldn't mind doing when the others in but tend not to need to.

swampytiggaa · 14/02/2016 20:47

Bathroom time is private. I have been with dh for almost 20 years. Only time I have used the loo in front of him was in labour with dc5 when it was deemed unwise for me to go alone.