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Share bathroom together?

63 replies

MusicMum18 · 14/02/2016 13:20

H,
Some friends of my dh and I were saying that they thought us strange because we share the bathroom...ie my dh might use the toilet when I'm in the bath, or vice versa, or I might clean my teeth whilst dh in the bath etc.

Our friends thought this was strange/a bit rank. They never use the bathroom at the same time and lock the door. To us it's just a place to chat really and catch up! As well as in other areas of the house obviously!

We are happy with this arrangement and didn't think it strange but I am just wondering if any other couples do the same, and in fact they are the weird ones for not sharing the bathroom!

I know it's a personal questions im just curious!

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Shesinfashion · 14/02/2016 20:52

He sits down for a wee? Why?

Finola1step · 14/02/2016 20:53

Coming in to brush teeth while the other having a shower ok if time is short.

Wees only if desperate and one of the dc is in the downstairs loo.

Poos.... Not a chance!

Finola1step · 14/02/2016 20:54

Oh and no chit chat in the bathroom. Its my haven of calm and tidy.

nocabbageinmyeye · 14/02/2016 21:00

Chats in the bath - fine
Teeth brushing - fine

Anything toilet related - not fine, no no no, manky, over sharing

I don't mind being interrupted in the shower if necessary so that's less of a personal space/boundary thing and more of a ten minutes of peace and quiet in a scalding hot shower is bliss to me so rather he didn't come in

dementedma · 14/02/2016 21:05

No sharing of bathrooms for anything here. Ever.

ddeemummy · 14/02/2016 21:58

This is just normal behaviour in our house. There is times i want peace in bath if im that way out but i can never seem get it.

Lucky we have a seperate toilet but the sink is in the bathroom so that doesnt help. At times i actually quite like the husband coming to sit with me for a natter visa versa

Only1scoop · 14/02/2016 22:06

I used to see a bloke who sat down to pee

Always found it well odd.

Normal other than toilet stuff.

Topseyt · 14/02/2016 22:24

We have been together 30 years now and never shared anything bathroom related.

I absolutely would NOT want anyone else using the toilet in the same room as me. It would be both of us encroaching on the other's privacy, and crossing a line of human decency.

That would be my feeling anyway. Horses for courses though, perhaps.

Arfarfanarf · 14/02/2016 22:29

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MusicMum18 · 15/02/2016 08:40

I have worked out why dh sits down for a wee...he tends to spend a good amount of time on the throne and I have discovered he takes his phone with him and sits and plays games, goes on internet, checks football scores etc. !! I think THIS is rank, just think of the germs on his phone! Does anyone do this/experience of this? Opinions please!

We only have the 1 bathroom plus downstairs loo which doesn't help. We don't share downstairs loo, but we do the bathroom. We don't mind each other being in whilst were o. The toilet but we tend just to leave each other to it. We never use the lock though.

So interesting to hear peoples opinions on this!

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DrDreReturns · 15/02/2016 08:46

DW doesn't lock the door, then gets upset when someone else comes in Confused

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MusicMum18 · 15/02/2016 08:47

At night usually dh takes a wee whilst I clean teeth then we swap over. We usually come to bed at the same time so finds this works best so we don't have to take turns using the bathroom whilst the other one waits etc. Weird? Quite possibly.

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MusicMum18 · 15/02/2016 08:47

That's funny dre x

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MusicMum18 · 15/02/2016 08:49

Also, how do people go on with children? I have a 10 month old and have to use the bathroom with her in it, usually sat on floor playing, as she's on the move and I need to supervise! Have to admit though the thought of a nice bath without dd and dh around sounds like bliss. Luckily my dh bought me a lovely spa day for valentines,

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Only1scoop · 15/02/2016 09:01

Well that's nice Op you can use your gift to go to the carsey in peace Grin

Enjoy

Ludways · 15/02/2016 09:06

I would share the bathroom with my ex, we drew the line at poos though. Dh and I don't share though and I prefer it.

Oysterbabe · 15/02/2016 09:12

Nope. I would hate it and so would he. We have two bathrooms so it would never be a necessity.

Pidapie · 15/02/2016 09:16

We use the bathroom alone! Don't like to share it :p

Beachlovingirl · 15/02/2016 09:19

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TheOptimisticPessimist · 15/02/2016 09:25

DP was very open about bathroom habits from day one. It took me a little longer to be ok with weeing with the door open (which amuses me because I've never had such hang ups with my close friends) but now doors tend to stay open so we can chat!

No open door pooing though. Nobody wants to smell that...

blindsider · 15/02/2016 09:36

Ha Ha it makes me laugh how precious some people are. I think it is a fairly healthy sign that the pair of you are comfortable with each other...I have a bath with DW every night before bed great place to chat and unwind.

Pipbin · 15/02/2016 09:50

Ha Ha it makes me laugh how precious some people are.

I don't think that wanting to shit or change a tampon in privacy makes me 'precious'.

blindsider · 15/02/2016 09:55

Pipbin

Of course it doesn't, but there are people unable to even share a bathroom or clean their teeth wile DP is in the shower etc.

I agree the shitting thing is a horses for courses affair..

Better?

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MusicMum18 · 15/02/2016 09:58

I don't think blindsider was attacking anyone, let's keep this thread good humoured as it was intended! I did ask for people's opinions after all! Think were in the middle of the 2 extremes, I wouldn't change a tampon in front of dh but like blindsider said it is lovely feeling so at ease with each other :)

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Only1scoop · 15/02/2016 09:58

No Pip

I'm certainly not precious either

I'd find whatever I had to 'chat about my day' Grin

Could certainly wait until dp had finished curling one out Confused

And preferably opened the window