I split with their son 7 years ago, he's an aggressive, violent man and I've been NC with him nearly 15 months. He no longer sees dd either.
Ex fil calls me regularly, sometimes daily and its driving me mad. He doesn't listen to me, he just talks at me. His wife has, I think, early dementia and he has had a few operations which he details to me when he calls.
He really doesn't understand what his son has done to me and can't understand why I won't let him see dd and at one point kept asking me to take him back. His son has several convictions and a non mol was in place until December.
He called tonight and I'm in the bath. I said hello and said need to make it a quick call as I'm in the bath. He said I wish I was in there with you. I said nothing. He said only joking. Then asked when I'm going into hospital and I said Monday and he then starts telling me about new op he has to have, a fall he had and that he's spoken to the surgeon.....finally get a word in saying hope he's ok, he immediately asks how dd is, say she's fine, watching a film, he switches back to me, he will call me next week. I say no, please don't, I'll be in hospital.
Then he just says bye 50 times and hangs up.
Ffs! Why can't he phone his own kids? It's not like he ever listens to anything I say and I can't seem to get through to him I never want to hear about his son.
Aaaargh!