Just discovered my friends DH has a mistress!! Would you tell??

[pedilia]

And she has no idea, they have three DD's together, I am torm between telling her but I have been caught in this situation before and it all ended horribly with him denying it and friend blaming me!!

What would you do???????????

Anonymus note??? please!!! if you are going to tell her you should own up to it!

Anonymus notes of any kind are despicable, at least if you tell the poor woman in person you can help her to calm down afterwards.

What AttilatheMeerkat said.

I'd keep schtum.

Definately tell her, but after christmas.

sorry to lol at your dilemma but your not going to be any better off after reading this lot. Dont, do, dont, do

No. Don't tell her. Its not your business and you won't be thanked for being the person who a) may embarrass her severely because she does actually know / suspect / sense something is up with her DH

or b) is the person who brings her world crashing down around her

If you're not a professional councellor with training in this kind of thing, stay away from spilling the beans - it could be catastrophic for her.

I'm speaking as someone who was told such information once by a "friend"

PS why is it every thread I go on, I see that so many MNetters cannot spell this word

DEFINITELY

sorry for the minor hijack!

If she (the wife) was a good friend it may be different but pedilia has already said she not close - so ... I would definitely leave it

bubsagrug Couldn't agree more!!!

I would leave it, especially as she isn't a close friend. It's enough that he's beenc aught out, perhaps he'll be more discreet (sp?) in future or admit it anyway.