NC with DH's family but his Neice has sent DS1 a FB friend request

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We've been NC with Dh's family, his parents and sister for years. His niece was 4 last time we saw her and DS1 a few months old. For a while I did still send her cards and birthday presents but we never got a thank you or a reciprocation, so I stopped. (Dh always thought it was a bad idea). DH stopped contact with his parents, but it was his Sis who stopped contact with us.

DN is now 18yo and from FB a very attractive and popular young woman. Not sure if that's relevant but she doesn't "need" the friends IYSWIM.

Anyway, out of the blue DH & DS1 have received friend requests from her. TBH, I'm amazed she even knows we exist. We have a very common surname, and high security settings, no pictures. They would have taken a lot of finding!

I don't do FB, so perhaps it's fear of the unknown, but I'm a bit uneasy about it. I can't think of any reason for the requests other than curiosity. Ds has all the highest security settings and knows what's Ok and not OK to post but obviously being his friend means she gets to see what's going on in his life and I don't think I'm comfortable with DH's family seeing that.

OTOH it's a shame the cousins don't know each other.

There've been no messages, just the friend request. She is a very active Facebooker, so maybe there's nothing more to it than that, but.....

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yes always the wicked witch wife

does your cousin know that's how you refer to his mum?