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Has anyone here ended up Happy Ever After??

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TwoNoisyBoys · 14/07/2015 22:06

Just that really. I understand by the nature of this board, that it's going to feature problems in relationships, but having been a bit up and down myself lately, I wonder if anyone really is happy, hopefully for ever after? I don't think I know one genuinely happy couple :(
(Sorry for the gloomy tone....just feeling a bit gloomy tonight and would love to hear some positive stories)

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BearFeet · 14/07/2015 22:09

Yes we are both very happy. Rarely fall out, are kind and respectful to each other and also make each other laugh.

LauraChant · 14/07/2015 22:14

I am. Been with DH since 1999, married in 2006, two kids, we both work from home together, we are best friends, make each other laugh and are proud of each other. Obviously we have disagreements but have compromised on some things (he has lowered his standards of tidiness for example!). I look forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

Here's a weird thing, I sometimes think about going back in time to relive bits of my life and always end up thinking no I couldn't because what if something I did meant I never ended up with DH and the kids? I have made mistakes but they have led me here and I wouldn't want to change anything just in case.

I hope that wasn't too sickening and is what you were after.

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TwoNoisyBoys · 14/07/2015 22:16

It's not sickening at all, it's lovely these are exactly what I'd like to hear more of....

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badRoly · 14/07/2015 22:18

Dh and I met at uni in 1994, got together in 1995 and married in 2000. Still happy and still very much together.

Don't know if it will be 'ever after' but as the DC get older, I have glimpses of a future of 'just us' and get excited at the prospect which must be a good thing.

horseygeorgie · 14/07/2015 22:21

my parents have just reached 54 years! The argue a bit of course, DD irritates DM on a daily basis with his ebay habit and his very relaxed about EVERYTHING mode (she is the complete opposite!) but they love each other and it is very obvious.

superslim · 14/07/2015 22:21

Yes, met when I was 18yrs old, married at 21 (he is 10yrs older than me) still happy after 22yrs and 2 children, now teenagers. Yes we sometimes argue and have our ups and downs but I couldn't imagine my life without him and we still go out for meals or walks as "dates" especially now the children do their own thing.

mapmyface · 14/07/2015 22:22

Yes, together 13 years. Married 8 (childhood sweethearts) we bicker, hardly ever argue. We laugh a lot. We both want the same things from life.

deepdarkwood · 14/07/2015 22:27

Dh and I have been together 22 or 23 years now (If I could remember my own age, I'd be more confident...). I can't imagine my life without him in it - he's a constant, stable force in my rather whirly-gig beetle life!

We're maybe not obviously romantic, but it's the little things that count, and knowing that someone has always, always got your back, and has your best interests at heart. He brings me a cup of tea every morning in bed and when I was manic at work recently, he quietly took over all the household tasks for a couple of months. Well most of them anyway.

I don't tend to use the word 'happy' - we've been lucky so far, and had very few real troubles, so we are happy, but happiness is such a fleeting concept - and happiness isn't something you can have all the time. But I am very, very content.

We are currently enjoying a glass of wine to celebrate that he proposed 15 years ago today... (& yes, I am on mn, and he is making props for the leavers disco!)

Pinkball75 · 14/07/2015 22:27

Yup. It's taken a lot of work, tolerance and understanding on both sides, but we're each other's best mates.

I think everyone has issues in their relationships and things that are or could be deal breakers, but if you can be objective enough to talk sensibly and you have enough love and respect for each other, you can get through anything.
My OH is very unselfish and says that the most important thing to him is that DD and I are happy, and it goes both ways.

badRoly · 14/07/2015 22:27

Good point horsey, my folks would have been married 50 years next month if Dad hadn't inconsiderately died 3 years ago. My Mum misses him dreadfully as there was no one but him

AnImpalaCalledBABY · 14/07/2015 22:29

Yes, I am genuinely completely totally happy with my DH, we are sickeningly in love

We have been together for 15+ years, we have lots of children and we are just so happy together. He treats me like I am the most important thing in the world all the time, there is never one minute that I feel unloved or unwanted or anything but cherished and adored

When we met neither of us were looking for anything to happen but it was like a whirlwind and we just connected so quickly, I didn't believe in happy ever afters or in love the way it's described in books and movies and songs until I met him and experienced it for myself

I'm sorry you're feeling gloomy twonoisyboys, I hope that if you're looking for a new relationship you meet someone wonderful soon

Neonladybird1970 · 14/07/2015 22:32

Yes and I can't ever imagine there being anyone else .. We are always saying 'you are my other half' and I don't care how yuk that sounds ;)

Shenanagins · 14/07/2015 22:37

Yes. Went through a shitty divorce a few years ago, was completely jaded and then met my husband and sometimes have to pinch myself at how great my life is!

Chipsticksnvinegar · 14/07/2015 22:38

Some lovely messages here - it didn't work out for me and the father of my children after 10 yrs together, but lovely to read positive threads like this. I do hope one day I will meet someone else I feel so aligned with and still hold out on the dream of spending my old age with a beloved other half.

SingingSands · 14/07/2015 22:38

I've been with my DH since he pursued me for months at university. We have been together for 18 years, have 2 great kids, 2 snooty cats and a lovely wee home together. Although we have the occasional dig at each other we are genuinely very happy. He is honestly my best friend and I know I'm loved and I love in return.
We're not gushy lovey dovey types so I'd never tell him this. Ha!

Postchildrenpregranny · 14/07/2015 22:38

Yes , married nearly 33 years .Together for 35 The early years were wonderful .We had a rough patch for 8 years ( DH unemployed .Damaged him in some ways .Money worries) But we have come through and are enjoying being just the two of us again ,now our DCs are grown and flown and we are retired.One of the best things about it is the two wonderful children we have created , nurtured and watched grow into adults of whom we are very proud Dh adores our daughters and would do anything for them and me though he's not very good at showing it

moggiek · 14/07/2015 22:42

Yes. Not really a romantic couple, but we've depended on and supported each other absolutely since we married in 1977.

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TwoNoisyBoys · 14/07/2015 22:45

Thanks for the stories so far....it's a bit of a relief to realise there are some happy people out there after all.

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Pedestriana · 14/07/2015 22:46

Yes, been together for 22 years, married for 19. Seldom argue, we respect each other, and quite frankly are both so weird nobody else could cope with either of us :)

Quietlifenotonyournelly · 14/07/2015 22:47

Me and my DH have been together almost 25 years and married for 15, we met when we were 16 and 17 parents thought it would never lastI can't imagine life without him and vice versa. It's like we've grown together and got through the good and bad, our love for each other has always pulled us together through life. Don't get me wrong, he can be a bloody pain sometimes victor meldrew is my nickname for him and we've had our share of arguments over the years too.

Quietlifenotonyournelly · 14/07/2015 22:48

Pp Didn't mean to strike through everything grr

Tequilashotfor1 · 14/07/2015 22:50

Yep me and DP.

I had arsehole after arsehole and then finally met dp and he really put me back together.

Janethegirl · 14/07/2015 22:54

Met DH at secondary school, married 10 years later, been married now for 35 years. Ok we have our ups and downs but the ups are more prevalent. So it can be done and we are still very happy together. Still argue over what to watch on tv though

lighteningirl · 14/07/2015 22:54

Yes I say to my Dh 'thankyou for my life' every day I was a single parent for over ten years before we met been together for 8 years marriagied for 5 and he moved in less than a month after we met. We have both had to learn to compromise and to trust again but for us second time round really works.

Smartiepants79 · 14/07/2015 22:56

Yes, I think we are. Been together 12 yrs and married for 6. Two amazing little girls.
My parents and his parents also still very together. All my immediate family are in strong, happy marriages.
All of them have good and bad patches, disagreements and difficult times but they pull through and are better together than apart.
No one is happy all the time but the good outweighs the bad and that's what counts.

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