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vagina problem, sorry if tmi

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MyRightFoot · 28/05/2015 21:42

i'm too embarrassed to talk about this in rl and hope someone here can say they know someone with the same problem.
when i have an orgasm with my bf my v muscles push him out really forcefully. i have no control over this and there are no issues in our relationship. the same thing happened with my last boyfriend. both men are well endowed so they are not slipping out. with another boyfriend, when i orgasmed my muscles would clamp round him and
he couldnt remove himself but would
have to wait until he was flaccid. he said it felt painful but not agonising. im middle aged, no kids and i feel like a freak. has anyone ever experienced
this?

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Lavenderice · 28/05/2015 22:27

Similar things have happened to me. The last time I had a smear, and my GP had a bit of an issue getting his speculum back [embarrassed] he asked if I did pelvic floor exercises and I replied "yes, everyday" he said "you might want to stop for a bit" I did and things got slightly better.

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MyRightFoot · 28/05/2015 22:32

yes i had the same problem with a speculum. so its just very strong muscles and this is normal?

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Lavenderice · 28/05/2015 23:18

Yep. Very strong muscles. Congrats!

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MyRightFoot · 29/05/2015 00:32

thank you. thank god its not just me.

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Doodlebug300 · 29/05/2015 00:37

Stealth boast. Oh no, my vagina is too tight! :)

SycamoreMum · 29/05/2015 00:38

Congrats; your vagina has pecs

idontknowmyusernameanymore · 29/05/2015 00:41

Mine is like this too, but I'm only in my twenties. hope when I give birth in November it makes it quick, and means no tena lady

BitOfFun · 29/05/2015 00:43

It does sound like a muscle spasm. Perhaps you should take up a sideline in ping-pong sideshows?

It's nothing to worry about, but it might be worth pre-warning future applicants.

BettyCatKitten · 29/05/2015 01:03

I had this when younger, but not now I've had 4 dc's!

goodasitgets · 29/05/2015 01:19

Yup. Managed to fire a speculum out at the woman fitting my coil who laughed luckily and commented I must have a decent pelvic floor

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MyRightFoot · 29/05/2015 01:26

bitoffun how am i gonna pre warn? tell him "my fanny might beat you up"? luckily it doesnt happen every time. thank you everyone x

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BitOfFun · 29/05/2015 01:38

Ok, easier said than done, I'll grant you that. But it's not uncommon, I think it's happened to most of us.

Arsenic · 29/05/2015 01:54

"my fanny might beat you up"?

Hint seductively about your great muscle tone.

Then later you have 'I did warn you' at your disposal

rainingsleepingbags · 29/05/2015 03:50

Funnily enough OP I misread your nickname is MyRightFoof

GirlWithaPearlEarring · 29/05/2015 05:04

Wow. I never orgasm during penetration. Just cannot. Have tried and tried with DH. Consider yourself blessed! (considers doing vaginal weight-lifting and reaches for the dumbells)

LoisPuddingLane · 29/05/2015 11:57

Crikey, have you lot been weightlifting with your foof? I always thought my down there was fairly taut, but I've never fired anything with it. Maybe I should try. Stand back.

DayLillie · 29/05/2015 12:00

Maybe practice Pelvic Floor Relaxation?

withertosandwhyfors · 29/05/2015 12:00

Same happens with my partner. I take it as a compliment that she enjoys it so much she loses control to this degree.

BitOfFun · 29/05/2015 12:02

There's really no need- it's nothing to do with you.

Melonfool · 29/05/2015 13:06

If you 'clamp up' again (as you said when the guy couldn't withdraw), try a swift vodka - alcohol relaxes muscles. So does ibruprofen. Could keep one or other by the bed? Don't take both together.

If it's really an issue and causes any pain you could see your GP about muscle relaxants, but it's a fine line between helping and making things worse by removing all tone.

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MyRightFoot · 29/05/2015 14:53

girl i have
sent you a pm. the clamping hasnt happened in years but the pushing out is happening more frequently. it doesnt just push out his penis, his lower body kind of jerks back and on one occasion the end of his penis was black and bruised. he finds it funny . i have never spoken to anyone about my angry fanny before. i have googled and there is a russian woman who holds the record for the strongest, lifting 16kg weights!

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goodcompany2 · 29/05/2015 16:23

Clamped only a few times, the pushing out the penis is almost always. Choose a position that lets him deeper (spoons) and give him notice you're about to orgasm then he can just stay in place? If my BF tries to move in and out he will never get back in LOL. We joke about how my body fights him back! Just go with it, perfectly normal for some. x

Royalsighness · 29/05/2015 20:04

I am 24 and I wet myself when I laugh. Can we swap please?

Reekypear · 29/05/2015 20:12

here

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MyRightFoot · 29/05/2015 21:43

thanks pear. i did suffer from that when i was a teenager and it took two years to finally lose my virginity. i think i knew it was happening again and i didnt want to face it.

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