I have an OH and DC. Been together 15 yrs, im late 30s he is late 40s. Last while I have been feeling very distant from OH but can not figure out what has happened or has it been the build up to snap.
I am the bread winner and always have been, my job is getting into difficulty due to the Company losing money, I have discussed with OH who does not seem to be concerned by the fact I may be out of a job. He works P/T but no contracts etc, cash in hand. I have suggested he get or at least look for something more reliable! But he is happy plodding about so the pressure and worry is back to me.
We no longer share a bed and haven't for about 3 yrs, we still have sex but probably more down to him as he gets moody if he doesn't get sex. He also smokes weed so can be quite moody and angry in a way if he isn't smoking.
Good points are he can be caring, doesn't cheat etc but can be a little controlling at times I think he thinks he is taking care of things but these are things I can manage myself if he left me to it. I suppose it can be condescending.
Is there a way we can connect or is it time for a new start?