Ex and I were together for about a year and a half. No children together. About 8 weeks ago we broke up because I felt he was really untidy in himself and his home and I felt unloved as he never showed me any affection. I don't know if he was having an affair or not but I really don't think he was. We broke up on friendly terms but he begged and begged me not to leave him but I thought it was for the best. We lost contact until 2 weeks ago when I was worried I hadn't heard from him (he has attempted suicide in his past) so popped around and he was fine, just lost my number as he lost his phone.
As soon as he saw me he was all over me and begging me to get back with him. I was really unsure but ok says I. Just give him a chance. 3 weeks on he hasn't changed a bit. I was over last night and as usual his house is a mess. He leaves the dishes to dry themselves and doesnt bother to put them away so there are no pots in the cupboards....they are all still on the draining board from weeks ago. A bath towel and a bed sheet are strewn across the middle of the kitchen floor as are the vacuum cleaner, the ironing board and various other things. Loads of papers and medicine are all over his worktop. His cooker is disgusting. All his undies are dumped on the chair in his room, never his bed is made. The toilet has shit round the bowl probably from weeks ago despite a loo brush at the side of the toilet. He weighs 30 stone. While I was there yesterday he let out a HUGE stinky wind and thought it was funny. I thought it was disgusting. I have told him subtly he needs to clean himself and his home up but it doesnt work. It stinks. He's always swearing (f this, f that, twt etc..) in front of me and when he was loosing in a dvd game yesterday called me a fcker. I told him, again subtly, that he is really common and he ought to smarten himself up but he's a slob. I am really really nice when I tell him these things and offer to help but he takes no notice and right now I don't want to see him again because his house and even he makes me sick. There is something else he said last night which I will start another thread about.