How do you know if you're in love with someone or merely just love them?

[frenchconnection]

i have this query really, my dh and i have been together for nearly 5 yrs, whirlwind romance at start, engaged after 2mths... but now with 2 children (one from my previous relationship)im not sure if we're still in love? As we go days/weeks without so much as a peck on the cheek, let alone a hug.

Some weeks we barely talk then the next week we can be best of friends(i have severe mood swings) and he can make me laugh so much it hurts. To be honest it feels like we are brother and sister rather than lovers and i dont know whether to leave him or stay?We only have sex about once every few wks btw and i cannot bear him to kiss me properly even then, (i turn my head away...!)But some days we are like best buddies...

frenchconnection, you've mentioned your mood swings more than a few times in this thread. I really think that if they are as severe as you paint them to be, then you should perhaps go and speak to the GP or a counsellor.

Also, thrill seeking behaviour and then major downs are pretty symptomatic of someone with a proper mood swing disorder so it might be worth trying to sort this out (if indeed it is a problem for you).

In your shoes, I would also try and take control of ds's sleep problems - especially if this is driving a wedge between you and dh.