My 3 year relationship has just ended and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. I ended it because I was fed up with him playing games and treating me like the bottom of his list. We didn't live together but I viewed it as a serious long term relationship. We had talked about marriage, kids, a future, everything. Now it's like I don't exist to him.
I am 26 and he is 32, so it's about the age people settle down. It used to be as near to perfect as I imagined a relationship could be. We did everything together, were really close. Then, about 6 months ago, he suddenly became distant. Didn't want to see me much or discuss things. Refused to book a holiday with me. Stopped acting the way he used to. I thought something was going on with a girl he works with but never got any proof of this. I just couldn't work out why he became so distant. Then he started lying about things (said he was going to wedding receptions/ birthday parties of work friends then I found out he'd actually been to nightclubs with work colleagues (men) who were about 10 years younger than him. I thought it seemed like he was hanging around with them to attract younger women.)
About a month ago, he stopped arranging to see me and wouldn't answer to my calls or texts until about a day after. I texted him several times trying to arrange a meeting to sort things out, as I knew it wasn't right. He ignored my requests and I eventually got a text saying "I'd like to be able to fix things but I can't think of any way around it. It feels strange and it won't be the same."
I replied "It won't be the same. If you wanted to fix things, you would have by now." I then decided that was it. I stopped contacting him. This was a week ago and I've heard nothing since.
It really hurts because it's like he doesn't care at all. He hasn't even tried to save the relationship and I've seen photos of him out in pubs with friends - he's not even bothered. How can someone change so much? It's as if 3 years meant nothing to him. What about all this talk of marrying me and a future together - did he not mean any of that? How can someone be so cold and indifferent towards someone they supposedly loved?
I feel like a disposable piece of rubbish. Thrown out and deleted from someone's life like I never even mattered. He has told so many lies about me that other people are basically applauding him. Probably told all his friends I was clingy and insecure, exactly what he used to say about his ex. Funny how it's ended right before my birthday so he didn't even have to take me out or buy me a card. I bet he doesn't even text me on my birthday either.
There is this anger inside me now that is building up and threatening to explode. I want to tell him exactly what I think of him but I can't. I don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing how he's made me feel. I can't believe I wasted almost three years of my life on this person and it's crazy but at times I wonder what he's doing and find myself missing him.
Feel so sad, like it's never going to get better.