Can a man be ashamed of what his girlfriend looks like but still love her?
A friend of mine is involved in a weird triangle. My friend, Amy is just back with her ex that she considers the love of her life. I'd say they do have a very deep connection & I actually do not doubt that he loves her. However his just ex is still in his mind. He is 55 btw & the ex is 16 yrs younger but he was actually always ashamed to be seen out with her and they never went away on holiday or even a weekend together even though they were together 2 years. Whereas he & Amy went away together quite a bit. The trouble is Amy considers him the love of her life and has not been with anyone since him, she's not interested even though she is still stunning. But she fears that he is he is still thinking of his ex and worries that he will go back to her whereas I'm saying there could be no future for someone who seems to be keeping a dirty secret like seeing someone but not wanting to be seen in public with them. Please put aside how shallow/superficial that makes him seem, we are all agreed on that but few people are perfect. The question is - would there be a future for them if he is secretly is ashamed of her but obviously likes something about her, can he change?