I've noticed a lot of very lazy men in recent years who are content to do nothing and let their partner work and do every thing.
My dd is married to a lazy twunt and I am finding out I am married to a lazy twunt.
My father and 1st husband had very strong work ethics so this isn't any sort of pattern for me.
It seems to me women give far more in a relationship than any man every does but she makes excuses for him. I know I make excuses for mine as who wants to be a failure.
I don't know why we do it to ourselves. A man watches his child for an hour or puts his cup in a sink and he is a Saint.
In my case, I have found both spouses to need a lot of emotional care taking. Any appointments, card writing, picking up things, remembering things, etc. is on my shoulders. It is very draining. I'm not sure what I actually got out of being married.
I have struggled to have a good career and neither spouse was much encouraging or supportive but I was expected to do that for them.
Maybe I just picked two bad ones?