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If you were over 40 when you met your OH, how did you meet?

32 replies

Yika · 07/08/2013 15:23

Just wondering/looking for inspiration. i'm dabbling in online dating after a few years of solitude/lone parenthood.

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RockinD · 07/08/2013 15:49

I was invited to a meeting about a local heritage issue. DH (as he now is) had also been co-opted to this cause, although he didn?t live in the area. We met a number of times during the lifetime of the campaign and then socially afterwards. We started going out nine months after our initial meeting and married two years later. I was 45 when we met and he was 48.

I had been an LP with 2 DDs for the previous five years.

RegTheMonkey · 07/08/2013 17:07

I was 42 and he was 34. We met by chance in a wine bar. Were married within 6 months of that first meeting.

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Yika · 07/08/2013 17:15

Interesting stories!!

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Mum2Fergus · 07/08/2013 17:17

Online...I was 40, he 35. Together 6 years, now has DS who is 4.

DaisyBD · 07/08/2013 17:22

My godmother died and left me some money to do something fun with for myself, nothing sensible. I decided to do an art diploma part time, having not done any art since I was at school, and I met my now DH on one of the modules, which he was teaching. He asked me out for a drink at the end of the course and we got married a year later. I was 44 and he was 47.

I'd done a bit of online dating in the past and found myself emotionally too fragile to cope with it, I think you have to have quite a thick skin and ideally no expectations either. Perhaps unsurprisingly, when I met DH I was really happy being single and didn't want a relationship with anyone Grin.

OneHolyCow · 07/08/2013 17:28

Travelling..
My friend dragged me along on a trip and there he was. A bit of flirting soon turned into something else and we got married very soon after.

Joy5 · 07/08/2013 17:37

Enjoyed reading about the different experiences.

As DaisyBD said above, i think i'm too emotionally fragile for on line dating, and i definately don't have a thick skin although i'm finally developing one, so really don't want to put myself through it at the mo.

Think my RL friend is right, shes happily married for the 2nd time, you meet someone when you're least expecting it!

MisguidedAngel · 07/08/2013 17:43

I was 50 and he was 55. He put an ad in the local (free) paper. I had been going to singles clubs and met a lot of tossers, some of whom were almost certainly married. His was the first ad I responded to. 20 years later (you probably guessed this was before internet dating was invented) we're still together.

I agree with Daisy that you need a thick skin for internet dating. I think mine is/was thick enough, but I have friends who have been hurt emotionally and exploited financially.

madasa · 07/08/2013 18:09

Online

thegreylady · 07/08/2013 18:13

I was 44 and he was 52.He was a colleague of my late husband and hsd been deserted by his ex who left the 3dc with him.

DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved · 07/08/2013 18:36

These stories are inspiring, im late 30s and feeling so vulnerable and raw still, yet all I want is to find a lovely partner, yet time is ticking on and I can't bear to force self out into online dating at the moment...

Viking1 · 07/08/2013 20:28

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DameEdnasBridesmaid · 07/08/2013 20:43

Pub quiz.

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Yika · 08/08/2013 20:55

Adult education seems to be a rich seam ... Hmmm, must see what I can sign up for!

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MadeMan · 08/08/2013 22:01

Dunno about adult education myself, everytime I've joined up to a class it's either full of mums (not single mums) or old geezers that have just retired and have a bit of time to spare.

So in summary, depending on the subject:

Creative subjects = The Mums.

"Hands-on" type stuff = The Old Geezers.

Spickle · 08/08/2013 23:36

I was 49, he was 45. Met online and have been together 3 years. The advice above about developing a thick skin is good - you become expert at weeding out the weirdos and timewasters and if you can laugh afterwards at some of the experiences and not take it too seriously, you could meet the "one"!

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Yika · 08/08/2013 23:46

I think online is a good way to go just to feel that I'm being proactive about it. I hear quite a lot of happy endings these days. :)

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FunInTheSunD · 09/08/2013 00:54

another online here as well. I wasn't looking for a relationship, I was looking to find a man for my friend.Smile

MistressDeeCee · 09/08/2013 04:19

Met OH on FB, in a general chat forum. It was more group talk then after a while we started messaging, just as friends tho. A date came after say 3 months or so, & we're still together - and engaged - 5 years later. I wasnt specifically looking for a partner or doing any online dating sites, but social networking is here to stay and in this day and age I reckon onlne is as good a place to meet someone, as any other. I was always the 1st to say 'no way Id NEVER date some bloke Id met via the net - & especially not at my age (40s) '..and look at me now, haha. Also have a friend who met her OH via online dating, theyve done a couple of years together now and are really happy. So..good luck Smile

Secretswitch · 09/08/2013 04:28

I was 41 when I met my dh on an online dating site. He was the only one to send a cockless photo.

postmanpatscat · 09/08/2013 07:06

I was 42, he was 46, both divorced with kids and we met online nearly 3 years ago. We both waited a long time to meet the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

PasswordProtected · 09/08/2013 07:12

Met my husband at work, when I was 38 and he was 42. I was his boss on a project.
After he died, I met toyboy online. He was 41 & I was 47. We just got chatting. That was 7 years ago.

DiamondDoris · 09/08/2013 07:40

Local Social Media meet. I was 43 and he 52. Both divorced with children. 4 years together and still very much in love. Wasn't looking for a relationship.

LemonDrizzled · 09/08/2013 07:47

Plenty of Fish... I liked a picture of his Land Rover!
He was looking for someone to share his hobby (which I didn't THEN take part in) and chatted to me about failed dates for two months until I persuaded him to go for a drink!
Now I do his hobby too, and he does mine.

BringMeTea · 09/08/2013 08:59

Outside a bar on a balmy night in Singapore.