Asked Flirty Guy Out; Now Being Blanked

[Zilvernblue]

My marriage ended a couple of years ago and I've always had a bit of a thing for this guy in my friendship group. I knew him before I got married and we went on some casual dates but never quite managed to get it together, although he's admitted he fancies me. He's very shy, and has never had a girlfriend at 33. But very flirty, quite attention seeking, but kind of sweet and good to talk to too. We all went on holiday together as part of a group last year and got on amazingly well. Things felt "special".

So the flirting was happening again, but no suggestion of a date. Mutual male friends were telling me he was keen but he's "shy", so I decided to ask him out. I'm not brave enough to do it in person, so I sent him a text, not too pushy but clear that we should give it a go.

No reply. This was 4 months ago. Since then, he has avoided me like the plague. I would say he is actually going out of his way to avoid me - theres been a couple of parties where he's turned up early for half an hour, seen me in the distance and left without saying anything. I've noticed I'm no longer being invited out to drinks by several of the mutual friends, just at a time (separated from DH and getting divorced) that I could have done with friends.

I'm sure he is doing this to avoid saying "no" and because he probably wants to flirt with me in the future without having to date me, but in actual fact I'm mortified, embarrassed and really hurt by it all.

So has anyone ever encountered one of these "flirty but nice" men who don't want anything else, and how did you deal with them? Because I'm pretty sure that once he's made his point, he will try to go back to the flirty stuff.

[Loulybelle]

I nominate AF for the MN Dating Panel, AF is so brutally honest, it'd save us single persons reading the red flags.

[Fillyjonk75]

G A Y

[skaboy]

Ok Loulybelle you got a date. That's if you don't mind some rusty, clueless 30something with the dating approach of a teenager reading lines out of a 'how to' guide to flirting...(Runs off to make a mixtape - is that what people do these days?) :)

[Loulybelle]

Skaboy, I havent had a date in 7 years and im nearly 30, im so out of touch with dating and all that stuff.

[skaboy]

Cool, you're on my level then. I think we could make this work. Like dating for beginners or something

[Loulybelle]

Yeah, perhaps that could be the MN Dating, "For beginners, unlucky in love, and bruised people"

[AnyFucker]

Louly and skaboy...what are you doing for your first date ?

Have you even swopped numbers yet ? Seen pics ? (ska, and I don't mean your cock, dude. Keep that in your keks for now, if you please)

How close do you live to each other ?

[AnyFucker]

No mixtapes either. And no feathery stroking fgs.

Louly, don't get pissed. Not immediately anyway. And if he wants to pay, let him.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Can I be chairwoman of the "don't say things like "I am a dating/flirting retard" commitee please?

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Re the flirty guy now blanking you..

Avoid avoid avoid.

And avoid a bit more. :)

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Have known two guys like that.

One is straight and was just immature.

One I would swear is gay.

[skaboy]

Perfect. Sign me up :) think I need a step by step guide.

[Loulybelle]

AF, I have an Irish liver which prevents me getting pissed, i'd have to drink a bar empty to get smashed.

Yes and no cock pictures, seen way too many wangs for my liking.

[KatieScarlett2833]

AF can be chair if I can be the mean one on the committee, a bit like Simian Cowell

[Loulybelle]

Katie, you mean the one who says no to pretty much everything but as soon as some totty comes on, its a yes.

[KatieScarlett2833]

Yes, exactly that

[KatieScarlett2833]

I nominate Fanjo for the nice one, or you think they are nice till the Mail does an expo on their coke and ladyboy after show habits

[MadBusLady]

"Louly and Skaboy up a tree..."

AF has to be present to monitor the date though.

[AnyFucker]

katie, you can't take the totty for yourself either

you must be completely impartial

< adjusts pince-nez >

[AnyFucker]

hehe, imagine that

I will sit at the next table and scrutinise proceedings

[skaboy]

Umm... I was thinking baccy on a pushbike down the prom, fish and chips and if that was impressive enough, snog in the bus shelter for the first date. What the f* is feathery stroking btw?

[KatieScarlett2833]

I see AF as Judge Judy-esque

[MadBusLady]

Yes. NO PRESSURE.

[KatieScarlett2833]

I like the sound of that date proposal skaggers, are you handsome or do small children cry when you look at them?

[Loulybelle]

Oh Skaboy, thats like my perfect date, shall i get my dad to drop me off.