I will try and be brief. In a nutshell together 17 years and married 15. 4 kids between 5 and 12. Both of us working. Dh is a good man, kind, funny, clever and great dad. The problem lies with me. It is just that i am not in love with him. It feels like friendship to me but he is very passionate about me. Last week he asked me why the strain between us and i was open and not the usual people pleaser. I told him i was struggling and admitted to thoughts of leaving. He is very hurt and wants to make it work. I feel i should try and make it work for the children sake. But feel deeply unhappy and that i am signing my life away. I can't imagine growing old with him. I don't want him to physically touch me and have detached. I am trying very hard to let DH back in but struggling to. I suggested counselling. Ironically he is in the field and thinks we can manage without.my family aware but emotive and telling me to make it work. Feel pressured suffocated and trapped
Weird asking strangers but anyone else been through this.