what would you do to your husband if he said this ........

[batmanstinks]

We were having a conversation last night (after a bottle of wine) about our friends.

We have recently moved and have a new circle of friends so we were assessing them.

One couple is lovely and, out of nowhere, DH said 'X is lovely, I think she might be my ideal woman. If things were different I probably would have married her'

I pointed out that this was maybe an inappropriate thing to say and he said 'it's alright, I don't fancy her as much as you'

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I would have been justified in cutting his balls off in the night wouldn't I!

Lemon, now that really does sound melodramatic

I do really love him, and don't have any doubts that I should have married someone else or that I shouldn't have married him at all.

But it is wrapped up in a bigger issue lately. we used to have lots of shared interests and things in common. Now that we have got older one of DH's interests in particular has become a much bigger part of his life, and I feel to the exclusion of me and, to some extent the DCs.

It has caused a lot of resentment on my part over the last couple of months and quite a few rows.

I suppose it's the sudden realisation that maybe I'm not actually SUPPOSED to resent it so much. Maybe he should be with someone who doesn't feel as excluded as I do.

And that he has actually been the one to say it.