If your ex...

[Pickles77]

Suddenly decided to tell you he wanted to try again with your 9 week old baby after he made you leave at 24 weeks pregnant to go back to your parents, and leave your job. Whilst he spent your pregnancy in bed with someone you hate, what would you do?

Especially if you had just met someone wonderful else

With no deceleration of love or anything.

I really hope you agree with the four letter phrase with the last word ending off I just directed at him

[Pickles77]

izzy! I just spat tea everywhere. That was a truely quality post!

[Flojo1979]

Try again with 9 wk old baby? Or try again with u?
If with u then I agree with the MN phrase but I read it as try again with the baby not u, in which case, although he's been an idiot understatement its not too late for him to come to his sense and be a good dad, and UI owe it to your baby to comply.

[Anniegetyourgun]

Riiiiight. The hurt that you caused, by... not refusing to be thrown out? Not getting on with the ironing while he got on with the shagging someone else? Not joining him and other woman for a nice threesome?

Pickles, the far side of fuck is too good for him.

[Pickles77]

He wants to try be a 'family' he has told OW & she is 'upset' but they both knew I was pg

[kernowgal]

It's all about him. He couldn't give a stuff about you.

I would be tempted to direct him to this:

www.someecards.com/usercards/viewcard/MjAxMi1hNWYyODM3YzJlZWI1NTli

[ivykaty44]

congrats on the birth of your baby

As for the ex - well they usually ask to come back at some stage, do they mean it - I doubt they do really want to try again it is just that they found out the grass is the same colour and the novelty wore off...sorry to say. I would be extremly wary

[Pickles77]

Thanks guys

[Jemma1111]

Pickles, I would say that the only reason your ex wants to 'try again' is purely because he realizes that the torch you held for him is no longer shining brightly and your attentions have now turned towards your new man. Therefore he doesn't like it and will do whatever he needs to to make you want HIM again. He just wants to win you over and that is all.

Stay well clear because I would bet that if you give him another chance he will, before long, tell you he's made a mistake or whatever and be off shagging around again. You will then be kicking yourself for fooling you twice.

[Pickles77]

Thank you Jemma. I am glad everyone's judgement agrees with mine because we all know that when I disagree with him I get the 'I'm being unreasonable' tripe to poison my mind

[lovemenot]

No no no no no! I got sweet-talked back in after a 5 year split and it's now going to be a much harder situation to get out of.

So no! Enjoy your wonderful new baby, enjoy your life, enjoy being yourself and leave the fucker to his "unreasonable-ness"

[B1ueberryS0rbet]

I would not get back with him under any circumstances. He left you when you were vulnerable. That must have been very distressing. Did he show any remorse or confusion about your distress. Now he is a spanner in the works of a new relationship! I'd say he's just a spanner!

[B1ueberryS0rbet]

ps, I went back with an x once too, and I didn't even want to. He had this way of making me feel like I owed it to him though. Bah!

[B1ueberryS0rbet]

Just read that he is not saying sorry and is talking about his pain and hurt?!

what!?

Anniegetyourgun said it. The far side of fuck is too near for him.

[Dryjuice25]

Tell him your daughter is already attracted to new "daddy" ....... and that he is the best thing that happened to you. He is a low life. Be happy he checked out sooner than later

[Pickles77]

Seriously yes his pain and hurt. And he's broken it off with OW for me and she is in a 'state'
Just trying to play with my mind ass hooooole

[dancinginthemoonlight]

Sounds like he was being very cocky.. (that you would fall at his feet and say you wanted him back). So now he's left with noone? What a shame...serves the star biscuit right

[Pickles77]

Love it!

Gather around for a good snort ladies I'm on the Pinot I found this text from him hilarious

'you give too much chat and not enough action'

right

[cupcake78]

Pickles please don't go back to him. He's hurt you far to much already.

I can't believe your dd is 9wks already

[aimingtobeaperfectionist]

Congrats on DD!

Just remember, he left you to have sex with another woman whilst you were carrying his child. He knew you were pregnant and still carried on being a wanker. He let you down at your most vulnerable time.
He just wants you and the OW to be fawning all over him.
Don't show your DD it's ok to be walked all over and treated like this. When she grows up she will respect you more for having the strength to stand up for your self and tell him you deserve better.
Be her role model. Not his doormat.

[Pickles77]

Just directed the MN mantra at him again

Thank you for your support ladies
More Pinot anyone? pretend its not Monday

[Xales]

Do you have any proof he has ended it with OW because he didn't exactly end it with you before getting with her did he?

Or perhaps she has seen the light and dumped him!

Or does he fancy a bit of Pickle on the side? You would become the OW if you were mug enough to believe him?

[Anniegetyourgun]

So he's still dumping women and leaving them in a state. That shows how much he's changed . (Although I agree with Xales, just as likely that she dumped him, hence why he's looking for a way back to a sure thing - he thinks.)