Why is he shaving his pubes?

[SoreenSiren]

My DH suddenly decided to give his pubes a short back and sides. I think he's up to something, especially as he denied it. Is there suddenly a fashion for middle aged men to shave down there?

Doen't usually need to give me a hint. Worried that it might be for someone else's benefit though - he's never done it for mine which is why i was worried.

More or less complete. And a new thing. last time was when he had a vasectomy a VERY long time ago.

He might have done it for himself so he doesn't get laughe at when at the gym. I think trimming is fairly common, is that what you mean?

Oh Soreen my ExH was into porn and then had an affair. We're now divorced. My comment was tongue in cheek originally

Would like to believe that it's only for the gym.

What is it that makes you think it's not for an innocent reason? Is he acting suspiciously in other ways? Apart from the porn consumption, which I guess is a problem if it's excessive and interferes with your sex life. But you say 'for someone else's benefit'?

There were one or two other things that made me wonder if I was missing something. He's away from home a lot so opportunities abound. I always trusted him, but.....

Is he secretive with credit card statements? Is his phone passworded and never left unattended? Those were both key indications with my Ex that something was going on

I really hope he's not cheating though.

I'm thinking crabs......

You can't really tell from the shaving alone can you? He might have done it cos he's seen it's all the rage at the gym/amongst porn stars or just cos he fancied a change or whatever. The strange part is that he denies it....but then again maybe he's embarrassed to talk about it.

If it's just the shaving and nothing else then he's experimenting. But if you notice any other changes such as taking unusual interest in appearance, guarding mobile phone/laptop, staying late at work or later at the computer etc then it becomes more suspicious. You've mentioned porn so presuming you don't mind that.

How would you feel if he was doing something more 'interactive' online? A lot of guys on webcam/online dating do seem to shave their genitals (for reasons mentioned above) but shaving alone doesn't mean that he's doing anything like that.

Has always been secretive with credit card statements, especially since I found out about the porn habit. Phone is also guarded. I feel like a second class citizen sometimes.

I'd hate him to be doing anything interactive online. Hard enough living with the porn, although he's totally secretive about it. We had a huge bust up over it years ago. i would have left but no job/small kids.

How did you react to the porn thing? Do you mind?

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so it is really excessive then? Do you think it affects your sex life?

I would have hot footed it to some sort of sex therapy with Relate if I'd known about my ExH's porn addiction sooner, so we could have spoken about it with a neutral person and agreed what was acceptable and not etc. It came out with the affair in my case.

I think you may need to do some digging to bring you peace about what is really going.

Definitely affected sex life when first started. Not so much now.

Yeah my ExH labido plummeted and he found me when pregnant and breast feeding repulsive Awful. I clearly didn't match what he was looking at online

Wanted to go to Relate at the time but he's very private and I can't even get him to talk if he doesn't want to. Drives me nuts. Went on my own to deal with it somehow

I don't buy the gym thing. My dh uses the gym an awful lot, is still young

It is really not a good look.

If you had just said he shaves his pubes and it's a bit weird but had no other concerns I would say don't worry, he probably just did it as an experiment (I'm sure it does look horrid). But with all the other stuff... it sounds dodgy.

Useful comment. My DH is not the sort to follow trends like that either.

So how do you sort the webcam problem? Wondered if I could sabotage it!

I don't think you really can unless he wants to. Are you aware of when he does it? Or does he wait until you go out?

Think it's late at night or when he's away.

I don't really know what you can do if he won't talk about it and he only does it when he's away. He already knows you don't like it, so that would just be the same conversation again.... Does it bother you enough to leave him?