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Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 8

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CailinDana · 17/07/2012 08:22

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Part 2
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Part 4
Part 5
Part 6
Part 7

The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

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Crazysouthallian · 26/08/2012 13:10

my hubby has got epilepsy...also some vessels in his brain are not working well...not sureyet what it is...he is being checked......so scary for him and us :(

CailinDana · 26/08/2012 13:16

That must be really worrying :(

I agree with dotty that you need to be ready. I think starting to have flashbacks and to think about it is the first signal of being ready - your mind has unearthed the memories and is trying to deal with them.

Do you have much outside support to help with practical things?

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dottyspotty2 · 26/08/2012 18:38

So sorry about your DH must be quite worrying.

You really need some support with both yourself and your DH it wont be easy for you especially having a young baby to care for as well x

NaturalNature · 27/08/2012 00:41

Hello Everyone, not in a good place but just need to offload, sorry I'm no use to anyone atm, will be thinking of you over the next few days Dotty.

Have lost my faith/belief/hope/something, don't know what and it's not depression, maybe I can't fool myself anymore don't even know if thats the right thing. It's like everthing is tainted with this insidious disease that everyone knows but doesn't see and I feel like nothing will ever be untainted. Like there's nothing good left, it's too much, there's too many survivors, too many who've walked my shoes yet it doesn't change, it's like society says it's ok for people to do that, it's ok for you to be used in that way. I don't know, like, ok there's a problem, society knows it but doesn't/can't/won't do anything unless you're found dead in a ditch, then they might have to do something.

Argh, sorry, just getting some angries/bitterness out.

They had a chance to stop him but didn't, why?

Farking Bastards.

It's like I'm nothing but meat. But maybe I'm making too much fuss over it, maybe it's not that bad, I mean I could have been murdered but I wasn't, so I have to appreciate that and forget the rest, forget it, because if it wasn't me it might have been someone good/nice/decent/worthy.

Just think everything/everyone is bollocks.

And tomorrow I'll get up and continue on and I may or may not look in the eyes of someone who's raped their child or their friends child or turned a blind eye to their dh/df/du etc raping their child.

And I don't know how to live with that anger/disillusionment.

Ahh well, thanks for reading my whinging, will bugger orf for a bit Smile

CailinDana · 27/08/2012 07:01

Good to see you again Natural.

Do you know what triggered these thoughts?

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NaturalNature · 27/08/2012 07:36

Blush the tv. Can't fully explain properly but it's a bit of four degrees of separation and a group of bastards. Fortunately MN had a thread going last night which had posters defending a position similar to mine and not tolerating the bastard position. Still all fucked up though.

NaturalNature · 27/08/2012 07:36

Blush the tv. Can't fully explain properly but it's a bit of four degrees of separation and a group of bastards. Fortunately MN had a thread going last night which had posters defending a position similar to mine and not tolerating the bastard position. Still all fucked up though.

CailinDana · 27/08/2012 07:37

What thread was that?

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dottyspotty2 · 27/08/2012 08:54

Morning boy wonders off to respite in about an hour can't wait for peace and quiet and a clean house and food in the house of course.

Sorry your having a tough time Natural been thinking about you.

CailinDana · 27/08/2012 14:16

How is everyone doing?

I've been out with friends for the morning. It was lovely but now I'm absolutely knackered. I didn't sleep well at all last night and was up early with DS. Luckily he's down for a nap now so I'm chilling.

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dottyspotty2 · 27/08/2012 14:37

Tired and cold apparently I look really worried according to DH zonked put before and had about an hour under my blanket back to comfort things lately.
Have a counselling session tonight don't know what I'll talk about TBH.

CailinDana · 27/08/2012 14:45

How are you feeling about tomorrow dotty?

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dottyspotty2 · 27/08/2012 15:04

Scared as hell of the possible wrong outcome Sad

CailinDana · 27/08/2012 15:39

I hope you're not waiting too long to find out.

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dottyspotty2 · 27/08/2012 15:56

Thanks Cailin so do I should know by Wednesday either way just keep getting palpitations now had all these plans to do DS's room etc only done kitchen so far no get up and go.

CailinDana · 27/08/2012 16:13

I won't be around much this week as we're away but I'll try to get on as much as possible and see how you're doing.

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dottyspotty2 · 27/08/2012 22:52

Had a good counselling session tonight opened up a bit more very tearful again. To let her know the outcome and she'll either text a few times or arrange a session before end of week if I need it. Going to head to bed anD try to get some sleep.

dottyspotty2 · 28/08/2012 10:55

So on edge started doing boy wonders room but now sat on his bed pondering whats happening its so bloody huge.

CailinDana · 29/08/2012 10:49

Any news dotty?

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dottyspotty2 · 29/08/2012 11:20

No nothing his name wasn't even listed on court page yesterday

CailinDana · 29/08/2012 11:24

You should know by this evening shouldn't you?

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dottyspotty2 · 29/08/2012 11:30

Hopefully she might be on lates

CailinDana · 29/08/2012 11:51

How are you feeling?

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dottyspotty2 · 29/08/2012 12:02

Not sure all sorts going through my mind about it, trying to think the old saying no news is good news.

CailinDana · 29/08/2012 12:03

Fingers tightly crossed that you'll hear one way or the other today and won't be kept waiting any longer.

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