Tell tale signs DP/DH is lying - please add to the list.

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I have been on Mumsnet for a fair few years with a few name changes along the way.

I pop into relationships quite often and sometimes post but I hear the same story over and over again and I admire SGB and AnyFucker and all the others for sticking with it and giving good advice.

Most of us that post advice have been there and can predict each and every line that will be spun and every lie that will be told. The word 'he' is generic and can be used for all relationships and is not male orientated in any of my posts.

1. I love you but I am not in love with you - has met someone else.

2. I need space to think - has generally met someone else.

3. Hidden mobile phone - has generally met someone else.

4. Unexplained absences coupled with anger upon questioning - something dodgy is going on.

Had all of these with ex-H and I would have posted on MN if I had known of it 12 years ago. I ignored my gut instinct.

I have chosen those four as examples and I may get some innocent person accused of doing something they haven't done.

1. Hidden mobile phone - secret party/holiday/wedding being arranged for loved one

2. Unexplained absences - secret party/holiday/wedding being arranged for loved one

Feel free to flame me or post.

Thanks

My DH provided alternatives to the lies suggested:

1. I love you but I am not in love with you - there is an OW

2. I need space to think - there is an OW

3. Hidden mobile phone - there is an OW

4. Unexplained absences coupled with anger upon questioning - there is an OW

He added a number 5:

I want to give us another go - OW slammed the door in his face when he turned up on her doorstep with his clothes in bin bags after he was thrown out of the family home